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Abandoning God - 9/15/2008 11:32:20 AM
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HellHathNoFuryAtAll
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I was with my ex-fiance for 2 years and we separated. I had been an atheist for as long as I could remember. I called to Jesus and He helped me through that difficult time. We got back together after about 4 months of being separated. I had peace with God and myself, I had a plan that I know was God's will. I threw all of that away for her....I abandoned God for my own selfish desires. I made some mistakes and let Satan enter my heart she made mistakes also and it has been a difficult 3 months....she's gone now and I'm left here alone and I feel like my prayers are bouncing off of the sky. I have this selfish desire to keep things that belong to her and I wish I could just let go and allow god to empty me of these foolish desires. I want to live for God and give it my all but I'm stuck in a place of doubt and disbelief. If anyone can offer me any advice I would appreciate it. I just want to do God's will and live for his purposes. I just want peace.
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RE: Abandoning God - 9/15/2008 11:54:45 AM
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deermousie
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I am so sorry for the pain you are feeling, HellHathNoFuryAtAll. There is hope.
The first thing we all have to deal with is God says He died to forgive our sins (because sin demands death as payment, so He paid it for us so He could get us back into right relationship with Him), so that we blow it is no surprise to Him. He gives us what to do in 1 John 1 (fifth book from the end of the Bible I think):
8 If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness
We confess our sins - confess means to same the same thing; God says something is sin and so do we ("God, it was sin to rob that bank"), we repent - we turn around and go the other way ("I won't rob any more banks"), we thank Him for forgiveness ("Thank You for forgiving me by dying on the cross") and we go on, holding His hand and knowing He cares for us. The right relationship has been restored. If you really did rob a bank (I just made that up as an illustration) the money has to be returned and a jail sentence served to make that right.
What to do now? If you aren't already doing this, start reading your Bible every day. I recommend you start in Matthew, as the New Testament explains the Old Testament, so read the NT first. Get a version you understand, like the New International Version (NIV). Tell God you hurt and ask Him for help. It's going to take time for your heart to heal, so let your pain drive you into God's arms. Crawl up into His lap and let Him hold you a while. Note the promises you see in the Bible (I will never leave you nor forsake you... all things work together for good...your sins are forgiven... and so on) as there are tons of them.
Go find a good Bible-believing church. I recommend a Reformed Baptist or Presbyterian (OPC or PCA not PCUSA) church for some great Bible teaching and where the members may be trained to reach out to each other. Go talk to the pastor and let him counsel you; it's their job to care.
Find some good Christian fellowship and let them be a balm to you. Learn how to give to them, too, as it will bless you more than them. It takes time and going through bad times like you are right now to learn the truth behind the Bible verses; start now on the journey holding His hand. Your life will grow and become more and more complete. And as God heals your heart over time and shapes your life to be what you were created to be (there's a great Christian book on manhood called "Born to Be Wild" - I recommend it) - you will find completeness and fullness you didn't know what possible. And God will give you peace.
You could do a word study on peace using www.biblegateway.com and it would be interesting and give you a jumpstart on having it.
And in His perfect timing, may He raise up a godly wife for you.
You've made a start in your walk with God; may it continue all the days of your life and bring you joy. I am praying for you today.
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RE: Abandoning God - 9/15/2008 12:01:01 PM
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TorchHeart
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Amigo, take it from someone who knows the hurt you're going through, first hand. It sucks when you end up separating from someone you care about. And, believe me, I have felt for a while like God has been ignoring my prayers.
"Stop the hurt." "Bring them back to me." "Why is this happening?" "Do you care?" "Am I a bad person?"
Maybe these are the questions running through your mind, too. They've run through mine. Its very tempting to abandon God when you hurt like this. I feel like my own faith is hanging by a thread, some times.
Please, don't give up on God. Take this from the voice of experience, too. He IS there. He IS hearing you. And while you might not feel like He's doing anything with you, He eventually will. This WILL LEAD TO SOMETHING GOOD for you. Have faith in Him, and you WILL have peace from this.
There is a church hymn that I remember:
"Be not afraid.
I go before you always.
Come, follow me,
And I will give you rest."
All those who seek peace through God will eventually find it. All those who want to do God's will shall be guided in that direction. All you need to do is not let Satan destroy your faith.
I know these words will probably not help ease whatever pain you're feeling inside. They're just meant to tell you what I know. I can't garuntee that the pain and anguish that you're feeling will go away immediately, or that it will entirely go away at all (I firmly believe that some broken hearts never truly mend, and maybe that's for a very good reason). I CAN garuntee you, though, that God will fulfill you if you let Him and keep believing in Him.
I will pray for you. Be strong, and may Jesus Christ, the Father, and the Holy Spirit all be with to guide and comfort you.
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RE: Abandoning God - 9/15/2008 12:04:05 PM
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Psalm 13:5
But I trust in your unfailing love. I will rejoice because you have rescued me.
Psalm 25:1-2
O Lord, I give my life to you. I trust in you, my God!
Psalm 31:14-15
But I am trusting you, O Lord, saying, “You are my God!” My future is in your hands.
Psalm 37:5
Commit everything you do to the Lord. Trust him, and he will help you.
Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do,
and he will show you which path to take
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Don't worry about anything, instead pray about everything. Tell God what you need and thank him for all he has done. Philippians 4:6
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RE: Abandoning God - 9/15/2008 7:12:07 PM
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Theophile2
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Find some good Christian fellowship and let them be a balm to you. Learn how to give to them, too, as it will bless you more than them. It takes time and going through bad times like you are right now to learn the truth behind the Bible verses; start now on the journey holding His hand. Your life will grow and become more and more complete.
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Please, don't give up on God. Take this from the voice of experience, too. He IS there. He IS hearing you. And while you might not feel like He's doing anything with you, He eventually will. This WILL LEAD TO SOMETHING GOOD for you. Have faith in Him, and you WILL have peace from this.
Some good advice for you, Fury. God never changes His promises, and with every morning come new mercies and new graces from His hand.
Your signature should be a reminder to yourself of that:
Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you always, even unto the end of the world. (Matthew 28:20)
Lord Jesus, help this man to heal from his emotional wounds. Give him the spiritual and emotional healing he needs to be an effective witness for your Kingdom. In Jesus name ....
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RE: Abandoning God - 9/15/2008 8:52:32 PM
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ladyichigo
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I wish I could just let go and allow god to empty me of these foolish desires. I want to live for God and give it my all but I'm stuck in a place of doubt and disbelief.
This reminds me of the chorus from the song by Chris Sligh (yes, the curly haired guy that appeared on the 6th season of American Idol), "Empty Me"
Empty me
Of the selfishness inside
Every vain ambition
And the poison of my pride
And any foolish thing my heart holds to
Lord empty me of me
So I can be
Filled with you
It is a good sign that you have still desire for Him in your life. I believe He has given you that desire to pursue Him. Meaning God is faithful even when you are not....and I say continue to run after Him despite all that doubt and disbelief. As you continue to pursue Him, ask Him to help you with your unbelief. Persevere.
Romans 5:1-5
1Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, 2through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we rejoice in the hope of the glory of God. 3Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; 4perseverance, character; and character, hope. 5And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us.
The Christian faith is not to be built upon fleeting emotions and feelings. It’s foundation is built on His Word, the Bible. And while some things in the Word remains a mystery to us, and the things about God are hard to wrap our minds around, we need to trust in Him and really lean on His understandings. Not on our own, or man’s understandings.
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I'm not cool enough to come up with a witty quote, but God is still good.
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RE: Abandoning God - 9/15/2008 10:47:02 PM
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HellHathNoFuryAtAll
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I thank God for all of your replies. I broke into tears when I read them.
God bless those who care about others. I appreciate you all from the bottom of my heart. I'm struggling with this and it helps immensely to have some strong christian advice. God bless you all.
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Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you always, even unto the end of the world. Amen.
(Matthew 28:20)
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RE: Abandoning God - 9/15/2008 11:05:55 PM
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Dear HellHath~
He is faithful and Just to Forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from *all* unrighteousness (IJohn1:9) and He also promises in in the book of Hebrews : I will never leave or forsake you.
Dispair not Brother, for the Lord is with you.
He is right there with you during your storm and will help you through it. You are never alone.
I am sorry to hear of your trial and I know He has a plan for you. Heartaches are very hard and I will say a prayer for you....
((((HUGS)))))
CRH
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RE: Abandoning God - 9/16/2008 8:46:15 PM
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jn1010lf
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Hello HellHathNoFuryAtAll
Tell me, honestly. Do you want the Lord because of who and what He is? Or, do you want Him as a feel good source because you feel alone for not having your girlfriend anymore?
I would suggest that you lose yourself in the Bible and let the Holy Spirit speak to you. It's not his will that you spend the rest of your life crying over any spilled milk in your life. He desires to give you a life in which no person can add to or take away your joy for living.
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RE: Abandoning God - 9/16/2008 8:56:47 PM
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Doubt and disbelief will hit you in the face from time to time, but if you hold on to your faith, it will be revived.
I also have recently (mutually) ended an engagement, so I know how you feel. You'll be alright.
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RE: Abandoning God - 9/17/2008 11:21:01 AM
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raivyne
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You will be in my prayers dear one. I know exactly what you are going through, I've been there myself. Ask the lord to give you comfort, peace and companionship. Don't look to the world for those things. When you look to Christ first He will fill your needs. Truely look to live for Him and forsake your own heart for His. Only then will your life and dreams be fulfilled.
When I took a hard look at myself, my heart, prayers and pleas... I found when I was praying for help and His guidance I was really praying for Him to guide me to what I wanted... not neccessarily what He wanted for my life.
I have some book recommendations for you if you're interested. Things that I have read and am currently reading that have helped me tremendously. Let me know if you are interested.
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RE: Abandoning God - 10/17/2008 6:21:08 AM
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nettiel
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pick up your bible grab your pen and search the word id start with psalms theresalot of scriptures that you can claim as your own try it you,ll feel alot better
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