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Choice between family and God - 8/13/2008 4:55:46 PM
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yetstillirise
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I have recently became a christian and am so happy about it. However, I was in a relationship with my partner for about 5 years and we have 2 children. He is a baptist and believes that our long standing relationship and the fact that we have kids makes it ok for us to continue having sex even though we are not married. He believes we are in a union and that is what marriage is. I however believe different according to the Word and therefore ended the relationship. Sometimes I do wonder if I am not deprieving my small kids of their father and a stable relationship. Please give me some advise.
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RE: Choice between family and God - 8/13/2008 5:12:58 PM
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ta_mosquito
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Does he object to marriage? Why not just get married? Or is he afraid of signing a piece of paper?
Of course, I wouldn't consider him a strong Christian at all if he has been OK with not marrying you for 5 years.
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RE: Choice between family and God - 8/13/2008 6:56:30 PM
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You what most people would not do...God is very well pleased that you chose God between your family. If your partner is a true christian we will eventually see the light since you as the woman had to take the stand. You were making things comfortable for him...He should be the head of the family as he allows God to lead him.
What is the reason of not married by now?
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RE: Choice between family and God - 8/13/2008 7:54:21 PM
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Sometimes I do wonder if I am not deprieving my small kids of their father and a stable relationship. I'd be inclined to think that he's depriving your children of their father. As for a stable relationship ~ who can be more stable than God?
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RE: Choice between family and God - 8/14/2008 11:14:12 PM
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My thoughts too are why doesn't he want to get married? If he wants to live like you are married, why not do it? Makes me wonder!!
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RE: Choice between family and God - 8/15/2008 12:00:12 AM
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beachcooky
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ORIGINAL: ta_mosquito
Does he object to marriage? Why not just get married? Or is he afraid of signing a piece of paper?
Of course, I wouldn't consider him a strong Christian at all if he has been OK with not marrying you for 5 years.
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I totally agree. If he was a strong Christian, he would abide by the rules. You should never have sex before marriage. Ever. A lot of my friends aren't Christians and they have sex. My friend Jessica and I are trying to minister to one of our friends. It's hard because all she does is talk about sex, etc etc. I hate it.
Personally, I think you made the right decision. And if you are worried about your children, pray to God. He will help you through this. Maybe he will give you another guy. It's going to take time. But if it's God's will if you were to find a guy, then he will give him to you.
God is so happy that you joined His family!! Keep pressing in! I think you made a very WISE decision!
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RE: Choice between family and God - 8/15/2008 12:27:26 AM
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Butterflytearz
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He believes we are in a union and that is what marriage is. I however believe different according to the Word and therefore ended the relationship. Sometimes I do wonder if I am not deprieving my small kids of their father and a stable relationship.
I don't know how long you have been separated but I believe that if he truly is married to you he could not bear to be away from you and his children.
As long as we are still in the flesh in this world it is a form of security to put it all in writhing so to speak,, make it legally binding in worldly courts.
He should have no problem with that cause he is legally responsible to you and his children anyway after 5 years of living together.
Im praying for you both .
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RE: Choice between family and God - 8/18/2008 6:31:00 PM
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eaglelady11
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yeah, I'm wondering why he doesn't want to get married either. It osunds more like legal and financial reasons rather than love. God is the biggest stability there is.
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