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First date insecurities?
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| “I’m not his/her type.” |
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| “I’m afraid I'm going to do something stupid.” |
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| “What if I have to let this person down eventually?” |
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| “I’ll accidentally offend my date.” |
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| “I’m terrible at small talk.” |
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| “Ending the date is so awkward.” |
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| Other (explain below) |
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| None. I'm flawless and have no insecurities |
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(last vote on : 9/3/2008 10:31:19 PM)
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RE: First date insecurities? - 3/23/2008 7:57:52 PM
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collie1
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My biggest fear is saying something really stupid, in any situation. I am known for that. In a dating situation, especially a blind date which I have never been on, it would be like my worst nigtmare coming true.
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RE: First date insecurities? - 3/23/2008 8:57:49 PM
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John_O
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I think I'd rather have a first date at the museum or at the zoo.
I'm interested in finances as much as the next guy but having the first date in securities sounds kind of boring. What would you do for the second date? Trade futures?
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RE: First date insecurities? - 3/23/2008 9:08:17 PM
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LabGuy
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I don't see an option for mind-numbing terror... ?
Disclaimer: Poster has essentially zero experience in this area, so this is kinda hypothetical. Maybe. Sorta?
I'd have to pick multiple options (can you do that?) Probably covered under "Not their type" would be the concern that there really isn't any interest and you're just being humored. (That sums up the one or two dates - depending on how you count - that I've ever had in my life quite nicely.)
I think we all fear doing something stupid, and thereby killing any interest there might have been.
Being terrible at small talk - check.
Worrying about letting the person down? I dunno if that's so much of a first date insecurity as more of a "relationship anxiety". My fervent prayer is that if God ever does bless me with a relationship, that I do not hurt her in any way, shape, or form.
Now all I need is a date to be insecure about...
-Robb
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RE: First date insecurities? - 3/23/2008 9:18:38 PM
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John_O
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Oh, the worst kind of date is a "pity date". That should be up there too, shouldn't it??
I've always wondered how people get so evil as to do pity dates. Like it's not bad enough that I can't get a date now you have to rub my nose in it?!
I really can't stand lying in a relationship (or any other time for that matter) and any date where there's not interest, is lying.
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RE: First date insecurities? - 3/23/2008 9:23:40 PM
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shemaromans
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Great idea for a thread, Michelle!
And excellent financial puns!
I have two insecurities although I don't really think of them them as insecurities, per se, but rather as potential hinderences.
1. I'm not great at small talk. It takes a while for me to open up to people that I don't know really well, and my lack of small talk expertise compounds this difficulty. I'm a great listener, though, and am learning how to ask questions better.
2. Whether I'm comfortable with someone or not, I often drift into Shemaland. It's a place that I love, but I sometimes don't realize that I'm there. It might present a problem when someone doesn't know me well. My time in Shemaland might make them think that I'm not having a good time or am not interested in getting to know them.
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RE: First date insecurities? - 3/23/2008 9:38:59 PM
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Grace-N-Mercy
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Great idea for a thread, Michelle!
And excellent financial puns!
I have two insecurities although I don't really think of them them as insecurities, per se, but rather as potential hinderences.
1. I'm not great at small talk. It takes a while for me to open up to people that I don't know really well, and my lack of small talk expertise compounds this difficulty. I'm a great listener, though, and am learning how to ask questions better.
2. Whether I'm comfortable with someone or not, I often drift into Shemaland. It's a place that I love, but I sometimes don't realize that I'm there. It might present a problem when someone doesn't know me well. My time in Shemaland might make them think that I'm not having a good time or am not interested in getting to know them.
Hey, Shema. First of all, I don't see where you're lacking at small-talk. You do a fine job communicating here.
"Shemaland" - cute! 
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RE: First date insecurities? - 3/23/2008 9:56:14 PM
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LabGuy
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quote:
ORIGINAL: John_O
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ORIGINAL: Grace-N-Mercy
Oh, the worst kind of date is a "pity date". That should be up there too, shouldn't it??
I've always wondered how people get so evil as to do pity dates. Like it's not bad enough that I can't get a date now you have to rub my nose in it?!
I really can't stand lying in a relationship (or any other time for that matter) and any date where there's not interest, is lying.
Well, in my case I wouldn't ascribe malicious intent to either girl. The first one is questionable as to whether it was even a date. I was in high school and even more clueless than I am now, so I wasn't real clear about the whole thing to her. Hence my uncertainty as to whether you would say I've been on one or two dates.
The other one I think was just taken by surprise and just felt awkward about it and didn't know how to say no. I was probably just an idiot to even ask.
-Robb
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RE: First date insecurities? - 3/23/2008 9:57:19 PM
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LabGuy
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1. I'm not great at small talk. It takes a while for me to open up to people that I don't know really well, and my lack of small talk expertise compounds this difficulty. I'm a great listener, though, and am learning how to ask questions better.
I am the same way. Talking to someone I don't know is very difficult.
I'll third that. Which is why I don't think I could ever do a blind date sort of thing.
-Robb
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RE: First date insecurities? - 3/23/2008 10:03:27 PM
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shemaromans
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Hey, Shema. First of all, I don't see where you're lacking at small-talk. You do a fine job communicating here.
"Shemaland" - cute!
Thanks, Michelle, but I'm much more talktive here now than I was when I first joined.
Shemaland's a very real place!
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RE: First date insecurities? - 3/23/2008 10:04:42 PM
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humbleinspirit
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My biggest fear is getting that date in the first place.
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RE: First date insecurities? - 3/23/2008 10:10:26 PM
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humbleinspirit
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ORIGINAL: Grace-N-Mercy
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ORIGINAL: humbleinspirit
My biggest fear is getting that date in the first place.
Is this like a fear of success? Like "wow, I got the date. Now what do I do if she likes me?"
Hmmmm, I do not know!
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