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First date insecurities?
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| “I’m not his/her type.” |
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| “I’m afraid I'm going to do something stupid.” |
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| “What if I have to let this person down eventually?” |
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| “I’ll accidentally offend my date.” |
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| “I’m terrible at small talk.” |
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| “Ending the date is so awkward.” |
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| Other (explain below) |
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| None. I'm flawless and have no insecurities |
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(last vote on : 6/1/2008 5:22:00 PM)
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RE: First date insecurities? - 3/26/2008 7:49:51 PM
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WaitingforBoaz
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I can only talk from pre marriage experiences. I'm not sure how much of it will be relevant now but it's all I have as a reference.
I am not good with small talk. I really don't know how to talk about anything that is not important. I am afraid I might get too personal too soon. I am good at listening and getting others to talk about themselves though.
I used to love first dates and I have no dating horror stories at all.
The biggest problem I had while dating was as soon as I figured out the guy was not for me, I would spend the rest of the evening trying to match him with some single person I knew. That will not be a problem this time since I don't know anyone single, 'cept y'all LOL !
I think the biggest problem I will have this time, is letting the guy I want to ask me out, know that it is okay to ask me out, even though he knew my husband(as an aquaintance) Did that even make sense? I do not know how to approach this and since I do not ask guys out, well, it very well may never happen. I am not officially out until June but if this guy asked me out. I would accept.
The guy I am talking about is alot older than me and has been divorced for 12 years. I am not sure why he has not remarried in all that time. Kinda curious really.
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RE: First date insecurities? - 3/26/2008 9:38:54 PM
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John_O
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ORIGINAL: cherishhim
I think the biggest problem I will have this time, is letting the guy I want to ask me out, know that it is okay to ask me out, even though he knew my husband(as an aquaintance) Did that even make sense? I do not know how to approach this and since I do not ask guys out, well, it very well may never happen. I am not officially out until June but if this guy asked me out. I would accept.
The guy I am talking about is alot older than me and has been divorced for 12 years. I am not sure why he has not remarried in all that time. Kinda curious really.
Send me his name and number. I'll get it rolling for you 
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RE: First date insecurities? - 3/26/2008 10:00:27 PM
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utilityfielder
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ORIGINAL: ebony101
utilityfielder, I stutter sometimes too, but it happens when I can't find the words I need to express myself. I'm conscious of this. So if I find myself stuttering, I pause, take a deep breath, think of what I want to say and proceed to speak very slowly.
I've learned to control it instead of feeling bad about it. What do you do?
My problem is I know what I want to say and I try to push it out faster than my mouth can handle it.
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I do this, too. For me it helps to stop, take a breath, refocus, and, when necessary, request the sympathies of the offended party. Admitting insecurities tends to add a touch of humanness to our character. Saying, "sorry, my thoughts got ahead of my tongue", even when *that* comes out sounding stupid (not that I know this from personal experience ), draws people towards you.
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RE: First date insecurities? - 3/29/2008 11:41:19 AM
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trainfan
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My problem is I know what I want to say and I try to push it out faster than my mouth can handle it.
That is exactly what happens to me when I stumble over my words only you worded it better Gary.
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RE: First date insecurities? - 3/29/2008 10:15:15 PM
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PreserveWildlife
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I don't have insecurities on the first date. I have them before the first date and after the second. They always center on how imperfect I am and how they will undoubtedly see how imperfect I am.
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RE: First date insecurities? - 3/29/2008 11:07:31 PM
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DynamoGirl
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I chose doing something stupid and small talk. I have to make small talk with strangers at work which is soooo uncomfortable and it's not even close to the pressure of a small talk on a date.....
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