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Wedding rings... - 4/10/2008 11:26:48 AM   
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One thing that bothered me when I was married was that my husband didn't wear his wedding ring. He would occasionally but he never made it a point to.

Since I've been single again, I've noticed a lot of guys don't wear them, even though they're very happily married.

So my question to you is: Do you feel it's important to wear your wedding ring? Do you wear it?

If you're single, do you think this is something you will make an effort to do when you're married?

How does it make you feel to meet someone who's married but doesn't wear a ring?

Just curious. *grin*

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RE: Wedding rings... - 4/10/2008 11:34:55 AM   
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I don't wear a wedding ring because of a couple reasons... I never wear jewelry; I've just never been an "accessories" kind of guy. I also don't wear it because wearing jewelry can be very dangerous in the working world. Neck chains can get caught in machines, watches can get hung up on tooling and get your arm stuck in them, and finger rings can make your hand conductive of electricity and kill you. They also can get hung up in tooling or machinery and get you stuck in them. I used to get tired of putting it on, then taking it off, then losing it... I finally just never wore it anymore. No big deal, I hang off of my wife enough that someone would have to be silly to think I'm not married. And it doesn't bother her.

Don't worry about folks that don't wear their wedding ring - it's nothing personal, believe me, I just don't want to lose body parts!
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RE: Wedding rings... - 4/10/2008 1:29:20 PM   
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Couple of reasons...

I'm often working with power tools, and wearing ANY jewelry of any kind is a very bad idea. I've seen finger ripped off at the knuckle because a ring caught a spinning blade.
Another is I'm getting older and arthritis kicks in every now and then. When the first knuckle swells, nothing is going on or coming off. So when my hand hurts, I won't wear it.
Then the last reason is that I want all the skinny chicks in the buffet line at Golden Corral to think, hmmmm....

Okay, joking on that last one.... have you ever seen a skinny chick in a buffet line?

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RE: Wedding rings... - 4/10/2008 2:20:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: APZR

Couple of reasons...

I'm often working with power tools, and wearing ANY jewelry of any kind is a very bad idea. I've seen finger ripped off at the knuckle because a ring caught a spinning blade.
Another is I'm getting older and arthritis kicks in every now and then. When the first knuckle swells, nothing is going on or coming off. So when my hand hurts, I won't wear it.
Then the last reason is that I want all the skinny chicks in the buffet line at Golden Corral to think, hmmmm....

Okay, joking on that last one.... have you ever seen a skinny chick in a buffet line?

Oh that was so bad I snorted lemonade up my nose! That hurt!!! LOLOLOL!!!!

So it's not a matter of "I don't want to wear it..." it's more of a matter of safety and health concerns. Hmmmm....

Any other points, gentlemen?

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RE: Wedding rings... - 4/10/2008 2:44:32 PM   
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I've always worn mine (seventeen years this month in fact) , even while using power tools. A properly fitted ring, along with being safety conscious will keep the ring on the finger and the finger on the hand (which is a good idea anyway if you want to keep all your digits) .

I’ve heard plenty of excuses why guys don’t wear them, and can’t think of one time I believed it.

Just my opinion of course.

Oh, BTW, there have been times women did note the ring.

I love my wife and I’m happy to advertise that I’m married.

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RE: Wedding rings... - 4/10/2008 3:24:05 PM   
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Well, that's nice but it's not an excuse... I've seen one of my ex-brother-in-law's actually weld a ring onto his finger when he was working on a car, then accidentally grounded his hand to the battery... Man that was nasty painful... Since then I really don't see a need for jewelry - just one more reason for my health insurance premium to go up. Yikes!
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RE: Wedding rings... - 4/10/2008 3:31:19 PM   
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Well, that's nice but it's not an excuse... I've seen one of my ex-brother-in-law's actually weld a ring onto his finger when he was working on a car, then accidentally grounded his hand to the battery... Man that was nasty painful... Since then I really don't see a need for jewelry - just one more reason for my health insurance premium to go up. Yikes!


I'm reminded of "Tim the tool man".

I wear gloves when I weld (like they teach you in welding school). As for the grounding issue, well that’s difficult for me to see if one is careful when working around bare connections.

I’ve known guys who do both for a living with the wedding bands. No issues with them.

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RE: Wedding rings... - 4/10/2008 3:53:18 PM   
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Let me put it this way:

What did people do before they were capable of buying a ring? Answer: not wear a ring.

I don't think it's a problem, but that's just me and I'm not married anyway.

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RE: Wedding rings... - 4/10/2008 4:55:58 PM   
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I wear my ring and am pleased to do so. Though, the pounds of marriage have added up all over, including the ring finger, so in the future, I may have to enlarge it a little. I guess I'm not as manly as the power tool, machinery guys - but I'm OK with that. I'm a child of God.
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RE: Wedding rings... - 4/10/2008 9:51:02 PM   
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I can kinda see why they wouldn't wear them. I don't like wearing rings. I have never been an accessory guy either. But I never thought I wouldn't wear my wedding ring.

Is a necklace with the ring too...
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RE: Wedding rings... - 4/11/2008 1:17:43 PM   
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So my question to you is: Do you feel it's important to wear your wedding ring? Do you wear it?
yes i feel it's important and i always wore mine while married.

If you're single, do you think this is something you will make an effort to do when you're married?
see above and if it was important to my wife, that'd be an even better incentive. i hadn't thought about it, but it'd be a good question to ask while dating/courting ...

How does it make you feel to meet someone who's married but doesn't wear a ring?
it's a fact that some men and women do take them for the appearance of looking available ... i'm not going to argue with people regarding safety issues and can see how taking it on and off can lead to it being lost ... i don't read too much into it ... i guess if there was other behaviors going alongside it, maybe but it's likely not my business

i am getting a kick out of all the replies to people saying they don't wear jewelry ... like wearing a wedding band is like some rapper all blinged out in shiny jewelry head to toe ;]
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RE: Wedding rings... - 4/11/2008 1:51:44 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: notmycity

I've always worn mine (seventeen years this month in fact) , even while using power tools. A properly fitted ring, along with being safety conscious will keep the ring on the finger and the finger on the hand (which is a good idea anyway if you want to keep all your digits) .

I’ve heard plenty of excuses why guys don’t wear them, and can’t think of one time I believed it.

Just my opinion of course.



Unless you work with heavy equipment or heavy duty power tools... you have NO idea of the dangers! I'm not talking about wearing it while you mow your lawn. However, I often do not wear it while doing labor work because I don't want it to get scraped or roughed up. We've been married for a long time too, and if one really wanted to cheat, a ring will not stop that. It's internal love and honor that will. A ring is just a symbol... nothing else. I don't get bent out of shape over some stupid symbol. If I did, I'd be in mess right now...my own wife hasn't worn any rings for over 6 months. She has blood tumors in her left hand, and has surgery just this week to remove them. There are plenty of legit reasons, and there plenty of reasons with arterial motives.

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RE: Wedding rings... - 4/12/2008 1:49:10 PM   
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How does it make you feel to meet someone who's married but doesn't wear a ring?


Her marital status isn't the first thing on my mind.
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RE: Wedding rings... - 4/12/2008 5:14:53 PM   
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If I were married, I would wear it. However, it is a cultural thing. I know people in other cultures where both men and women do not wear rings.

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RE: Wedding rings... - 4/13/2008 11:39:36 AM   
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quote:

I've always worn mine (seventeen years this month in fact) , even while using power tools. A properly fitted ring, along with being safety conscious will keep the ring on the finger and the finger on the hand (which is a good idea anyway if you want to keep all your digits) .

I’ve heard plenty of excuses why guys don’t wear them, and can’t think of one time I believed it.

Just my opinion of course.


Worked with a guy who was getting out of a tractor and his properly fitted ring caught on the cab as he swung out. Finger and ring stayed with tractor.
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RE: Wedding rings... - 4/14/2008 10:53:08 AM   
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Electrians who work industrial work are told not to wear any type of jewelry

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RE: Wedding rings... - 4/14/2008 11:46:03 AM   
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What about those gentlemen who aren't into some sort of industrial work of life? I know many business men, accountants, store managers, lawyers...what about them?

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RE: Wedding rings... - 4/14/2008 4:03:08 PM   
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[shrug] there are as many reasons as there are excuses. Listen to your gut when discerning the character of a man.

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RE: Wedding rings... - 4/30/2008 10:56:56 PM   
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I wear mine all the time. My hands are a little swollen these day, and it would be hard to take it off, but the funny part is, that if I take it off, there is a white ring there, that clearly shows what should be there.

I do understand and respect the powertools thing, but...

I think you wear it unless in danger.

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RE: Wedding rings... - 5/16/2008 9:45:23 PM   
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I believe that we(men and women)should wear their rings any time they are in public,especially when alone.Did you use a ring when you married?Why should it be different now?You may not be concerned about whether or not a woman is married when not wearing her ring,but why leave room for a woman to make an advance if she can't tell you are married?If you never wear your ring,there will be no white ring or other evidence that you are spoken for.True,a ring will not stop an affair,but will oftentimes deter the start of one.As far as safety goes,I am a fabricator,and have worked heavy construction for some time when first married.I have yet to arc-out anything on my ring(with,or without gloves).And I am smart enough to keep my hands out of places that tend to 'catch' rings,let alone be deep enough to get a watch hung up.Or a necklace.I have worn all these things in industrial settings(though,no watch now),most of my working life has been around machinery/industrial settings.Haven't lost a digit,don't intend to.Yes,work plenty on vehicles too,never electrocuted myself there either.Common sense and intelligence go a long way.So let's watch some of what seems to be sarcasm(like-" I'm not talking about wearing it while mowing your lawn").Oh yeah,what makes it a 'stupid' symbol?Is this to say that the symbol of our love is stupid,or,love is stupid?

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RE: Wedding rings... - 5/17/2008 8:53:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Tinkerbell_

What about those gentlemen who aren't into some sort of industrial work of life? I know many business men, accountants, store managers, lawyers...what about them?


I...think...everyone on here would know that some men take the ring off to pretend they are unmarried!

One marriage...three rings so far. My original wedding band was a gaudy (perhaps) gold nugget cluster with diamond chips or something, 3 little diamonds in silver across the gold...muy expensive for me and the only jewelry I had. It disappeared, apparently stolen on a job where I took it off and left it in my coat to keep all my fingers.

I know the subject is wearing the ring, bear with me.

The second ring resembled the first only at maybe half the size and cost. It was to replace the first, but I had never always worn the ring...hang on, I'm getting there. This ring just irritated my skin and had to be replaced.

The third ring I'm wearing now is white gold. She got it for me to relieve the irritation. It's worked. It's a simple white gold band.

Now as to why I didn't wear a ring often in past years...I had attended a few times a Church of God of Prophecy that didn't believe in jewelry. I always carried this belief that my marriage was in my heart and not in a symbolic ring.

I've started to wear it all the time because I started attending a Baptist church where the first question I was asked was, was I married and the second was where was my ring.
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RE: Wedding rings... - 5/18/2008 6:07:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Tinkerbell_

What about those gentlemen who aren't into some sort of industrial work of life? I know many business men, accountants, store managers, lawyers...what about them?


Some of them are probably on the make. But others have innocent reasons. Just can't say for sure.

I work in an office setting and I wear my ring most of the time when I'm out of my house. The interest level from other women is noticably lower when I'm wearing my ring. So it's useful as a trouble deflector. I do not place any symbolic value on it however.

I don't wear it when I go camping or to the gym. I'm afraid of losing it camping. And at the gym, it cuts into my finger when I'm doing weights.

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RE: Wedding rings... - 5/22/2008 6:43:27 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Tinkerbell_

One thing that bothered me when I was married was that my husband didn't wear his wedding ring. He would occasionally but he never made it a point to.

Since I've been single again, I've noticed a lot of guys don't wear them, even though they're very happily married.

So my question to you is: Do you feel it's important to wear your wedding ring? Do you wear it?

If you're single, do you think this is something you will make an effort to do when you're married?

How does it make you feel to meet someone who's married but doesn't wear a ring?

Just curious. *grin*

I have never been married, but I have a wedding ring..... it was given to me a long long time ago from someone who owed me a bunch of money.

I was told that if I wore that ring, I would be a chick magnet. so - for scientific purposes - I wore the ring when I went out, and sure enough, that ring on my finger seemed to 'draw' them in.

the verse was Luk 12:34 "For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. ....... but only if you wear the symbolic ring.

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RE: Wedding rings... - 5/23/2008 2:55:34 PM   
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I don't take my ring off!! Ever! But then again, I am a little more portly than I used to be...lol

In reality, I do always wear my ring, I do not take it off, ever, not a joke and not because I am a larger man. Actually, the tables are a bit turned here because it was my wife, when we first got married that refused to wear her ring, and it is a doosey of a ring too... I paid good good $$$ for that, but she is a simple woman and doesn't like jewelry. I used to complain to her about not wearing it, (not for the money) but because I do appreciate the symbolism that the ring provides. She started wearing it after a few more complaints and about a year after our wedding, she started getting several complitments on it and I think it made her feel good so she finally started to wear it on a regular basis.
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