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RE: '08 Pregnancy support thread...part 3 - 8/19/2008 7:21:31 AM
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AngieCat
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Thanks Brandy! That bra looks comfortable.
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RE: '08 Pregnancy support thread...part 3 - 8/19/2008 12:19:17 PM
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purejoy
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I did end up buying some nursing bras from Target about 2 weeks ago. Hopefully they last me. At least they weren't super expensive- one of them was $5 on clearance. So that makes me feel a little better in case I need a bigger size later!
As for me....the baby has been moving a ton the last few days, which does this mama's heart good. I honestly haven't been worried or stressed about it, it's just kind of in the back of my mind. I had another NST today, and I know I heard the heartbeat being irregular again. My doctor wasn't in today, so it was another OB that came in and looked at the strip. He said "Everything looks great! Now, what are we looking for again?" I told him the baby had an irregular hearbeat last week- he said "Everything looks great- you can go!" But I know with as quick as he was looking at it, he was thinking irregular heart rate. The rate has always been fine. There are just some extra and irregular beats in there. So they'll give the strip to my OB and she can take a look at it. And I'll be back in again on Friday to talk with her more about it then. Regardless, it was still a good looking NST in general. Thanks for all the thoughts, input, and advice. It's good to be able to come here and ask anything! So, this will still be in the back of my mind, but I'm good until Friday.
And I'm 34 weeks today! Crazy how I'm sure time will fly but seems to be going sooo slow, at the same time. I'm sure most of you know what I mean.
One other thing...anyone have experience with family living with them when your baby is born? Not like coming to stay and help, but actually living with you? DH's twin brother and his wife have been trying to move to our area for awhile so that the guys can work together. My SIL interviewed for a job today- basically they're waiting for her to be able to transfer her job to down here so she can keep her state benefits. Originally, she applied for a job in June and they asked if they could live with us for a few weeks until they found a place. Which was fine in June, but she didn't get that job. Now she's interviewing for this other job and could possibly start it in 3 weeks. Which means they want to move in with us in 3 weeks, until they find and can move into a house. My SIL did ask me this weekend when they were here if it was still alright if they moved in with us. I'm not quite sure what to say. I don't want to say no, and they don't have anywhere else to go really. And I feel selfish saying no. But at the same time, I don't know how stressed or difficult the first few weeks are going to be for me personally, for the baby, for breastfeeding, for our marriage, etc., and having other people around would likely just add to the stress. And I would really like my mom to come down for a week, and she might feel a little uncomfortable doing that with other people already living in the house. Argh, I'm selfish. Thoughts?
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RE: '08 Pregnancy support thread...part 3 - 8/19/2008 3:33:43 PM
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HomeSpunLady
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First baby? I would definitely say no. That is a lot of stress even if they get along with you, even if they move out before you have the baby. That is stress you do not need. I think I would say no even now, for me, having a second baby. If you are having an inkling of saying no, then say no. That inkling will get louder.
I had a great visit with my midwife. I am so glad we are going with her. My bp was good, urine good, baby's heartbeat was good (like 130's to 150's, but he was moving around when she first put the wand on and then settled down. She said that is good, they look for that. So that is normal.) Talked more about the birth and such. I am actually looking forward to it. Can you believe that? I guess that's good. Hah! But it was a very good visit, I still have a lot of peace about this. Thank you Lord!
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RE: '08 Pregnancy support thread...part 3 - 8/19/2008 8:55:58 PM
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I also got the shocked "You're pregnant!?! I had no idea... you don't look pregnant..." comment about a hundred times today. When oh when will I look pregnant and not just fat? I've gained almost 15 pounds, so the people who can't tell I'm pregnant must think I spent the summer eating brownies and cupcakes I'm most definitely bigger than I was in June... just in a chunky sort of way and not in a cute-pregnant-lady-belly sort of way Oh well...
I am so glad that I'm not the only one. I haven't gained a lot of weight yet. Maybe 3-4 pounds, but I was heavy to start with so my belly fat has shifted up above my belly button giving me this lovely fatty-baby-bump, belly/waist line, and fatty under breast area. I feel like a tank! Someone actually said to me the other day, "Oh, I'm so glad to hear that you're pregnant. I noticed that you were gaining a lot of weight, and didn't want to say anything." ALOT - it's been 3 pounds! Sigh... Anyway, I look forward to the babybump taking over.
Kathryn and Megan, I'm so glad to hear how excited you both are. I felt the same way coming home from my ultrasound. It's an amazing feeling. But you too, getting so close... wow! I'm so excited for you!
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RE: '08 Pregnancy support thread...part 3 - 8/19/2008 9:36:24 PM
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I had an older man at our church same something very cruel on sunday night. Keep in mind, I am big and getting bigger, it's only the belly and it's all baby. I can't walk like a normal person, I do waddle. So I am a sight. He said, as I was approaching the outside double doors, that they had better open both doors because I was coming. I was so hurt. Actually I still am. I struggle so much at the end with how I look and hormones don't help, that it just hurt. So I guess I've finally crossed the line from no one knowing, to it's unmistakable that I am pregnant. And to some, I'm not pregnant, I'm a whale. Stupid man.
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RE: '08 Pregnancy support thread...part 3 - 8/19/2008 9:39:45 PM
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Yay, Megan! I am so ready for a text announcing Mr.Josiah's arrival.
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RE: '08 Pregnancy support thread...part 3 - 8/19/2008 11:05:41 PM
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Ugh, Kathryn, sorry about the rude comment. 
I've only been annoyed twice so far this pregnancy. I really don't mind people asking questions, touching my belly, etc. There was one time someone touched me that I felt rather mauled, and I was annoyed then. And then last week a patient's family member addressed me as "Baby Bump." Not nurse, or Kati, or anything remotely nicer, just..."Hey Baby Bump, my uncle needs this right now..." Ummm, excuse me? My face and ME is UP HERE!!! I just smiled and got whatever she needed, but man, that one still gets me!
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RE: '08 Pregnancy support thread...part 3 - 8/20/2008 7:35:47 AM
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Purejoy - If I were in your situation, I wouldn't feel comfortable welcoming guests into my home for an extended period of time. I have been watching the Baby Shows on TLC the last couple of days since being on vacation and am amazed how many people are in the home when the new parents bring baby home from the hospital. When I had my son, I remember being so tired and not wanting anyone around. I think people who can entertain while exhausted have a talent. Those first few weeks are exhausting. I have already informed my DH that family shouldn't be around for the first couple of weeks, at least for not more than a short visit. The focus, for me, has to be on caring for baby and getting rest whenever possible. The only exception would be a mother or sister neither of which I would feel like they are "guests" in my home.
Kathryn - Hugs to you for that man's comment. I have a guy in my church who can't help to make observations about me every week. He doesn't say it to my face but does tell his wife, who is in my women's bible study group and passes it on. Some people can be so insensitive.
Amy - I think I started popping out about a month ago. Now there is no mistaking I am pregnant. I feel your pain about wanting to look pregnant instead of fat. It helped me to wear those shirts with the tie backs in them. Those type of shirts accentuate the belly.
I am so happy the tropical storm Fay didn't hit the Tampa Florida area. My mom and sis are flying in from Florida tomorrow to throw me a baby shower, and I was a little afraid the weather would inhibit their trip. I am excited about the baby shower this weekend, especially to see my mom and sis. Sis got engaged this summer. 
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RE: '08 Pregnancy support thread...part 3 - 8/20/2008 8:57:20 AM
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Artemis (sorry I haven't figured out everyone's real name yet.) I think you look lovely, and I do think you look pregnant. I can't wait until my belly starts to show it better, but then again after that I'll probably wish it would go back to normal because I'll be huge.  Oh well...
So I start work again full-time on September 2. I'm going to be back in my classroom for the next week-and-a-half getting ready. I'm nervous about going back to work. It's been nice getting most of my 1st trimester done with during the summer. I did take some university courses, and have been busy - but not teaching busy. I'm nervous about getting all my work done and being exhausted. Teaching's not a 9-5 job. I usually go in about 1 1/2 hours before school - around 7ish, kids come in at 9 (small Christian school so no breaks - duty all day long), tidy up, go home, make supper and do school work until about 10pm. I don't see this working while I'm pregnant, but I don't want to cut corners or let my students slip through the gaps.
Has anyone else dealt with this?
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RE: '08 Pregnancy support thread...part 3 - 8/20/2008 9:29:10 AM
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HomeSpunLady
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I know he was joking, but even still it was hurtful. And especially for me I had a few things against me that didn't sit well, it was a bad day, I was extremely hormonal and I just didn't need to hear anything negative. Most of the time I can just let it roll off my back, but I suppose it goes back to when I was really really heavy. I mean, I weighed almost 300lbs at one point. I got a lot of those comments and even though they were so far in the past, they still hurt. My body might not be 'fat' but my mind still is.
I am grateful this baby is so big and healthy. That's good. I am thankful I am pregnant. I am thankful I am growing. There is a woman in our church 6 weeks behind me with her second, she barely looks 5 months. Her baby has not been growing. So I am thankful I am so huge. I am not thankful for hurtful comments. In fact, I actual thought this morning, upon seeing my reflection in the mirror 'gee I may not look beautiful, but I feel beautiful.' I guess that's better, isn't it? I'm wearing blue, that's my color. Sorry, rabbit trail. Have a good morning ladies!!
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RE: '08 Pregnancy support thread...part 3 - 8/20/2008 11:07:54 AM
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purejoy
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Amy- Don't worry, your gorgeous pregnant belly will come! People still look at me and can't believe that I'm 34 weeks. But for me and my body, I feel huge, I've felt huge for awhile. I'm not used to carrying this around! But it did take awhile for it to be noticeable. Honestly, I was almost 30 weeks before the doctors I work with were able to visibly notice I was pregnant (under scrubs). Makes the pregnancy go really fast for them! 
Thanks for the advice on people staying with us. What I really need to do is just spend a good bit of time in prayer over it. I would be fine with my mom or sister here...like I said, I want my mom here. So this is just a little different, my SIL and BIL, right? And my SIL I would mostly be fine with. It's the idea of learning/struggling to breastfeed with BIL around and not feeling totally comfortable in my own home. I don't necessarily feel like I need to entertain them, keep the house clean, cook for them, etc. I think dh feels like hey, we've been blessed with this house and we've always said we are going to use it for God's glory. Here is someone who could use our help, why shouldn't we give it to them? Especially because it's his (twin) brother, so they're very close. But, he will totally go with whatever I say in this situation. The first step would be finding out if SIL even gets the job. But if she does, they will need an answer right away.
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RE: '08 Pregnancy support thread...part 3 - 8/20/2008 11:51:03 AM
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Amy - your belly pic is so cute!
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RE: '08 Pregnancy support thread...part 3 - 8/20/2008 12:15:36 PM
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