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ORIGINAL: sylvan

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I'm trying really hard to accept & appreciate the "SEASON" that I am in right now

That's philosophical to a degree and really how you have to approach it. The club scene is vacant and full of imposters, posers, etc. There is nothing there for you in the big picture, and you seem to know it. I was around your age when I came to that realization.

My advice is to truly accept the "SEASON". I discovered in my life that very very few peoply really know themselves. From an early age, we are pulled this way and pushed that way - by out parents, friends, significant others, etc. Use this time to get to know yourself. Forget about what your friends are doing. It seems like you are still in the "comparison mode" - and perhaps feeling a void because your friends are shacking up with random guys or whatever. I know the loneliness from being without someone - but, I've been much more lonely and MISERABLE being with someone out of a fear of loneliness. I actually like being alone because there is truth there. Going to clubs, hooking up with random people, etc. is fleeting. "Friends", aquaintances (and society in general), often try to make us feel like we're the one's missing out - but, they only do so to validate their own actions. For example, drunks don't like to drink alone....further, if you turn on the TV, every beer commericial, reality show, etc. tries to paint the image that you can only have fun with 'drink'. I used to believe that myself, but trust me, those notions lead to a dead end.

People have grown to fear isolation from a group, more than even death!

I want to encourage you in this "season" to truly get to know yourself - and to accept / appreciate that. You will fine peace there - and it will give you clarity and an acute sense of awareness. Strength. This will help you "recognize" the right person when they come along - and they will come along.

Your friends that don't know themselves will be shacked-up, married, miserable (w/ perhaps a disease or two mixed in), and divorced soon enough. People with no sense of self or value, work real hard to tear down those around them that do possess it - because it makes them feel better about themselves.

Start trusting and you will see.