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RE: About objectifying women - 5/19/2008 7:49:33 PM   
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Sorry if I alienated everybody with all this technical mumbojumbo :P]



And why would you suppose/assume that women reading and responding would be alienated "bah dem big ole words?"

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RE: About objectifying women - 5/19/2008 7:54:41 PM   
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I am leaving this discussion for one reason:

The OP's slick presentation seems to me to be a sort of "cyber grooming".

He can spin the big words and psuedo-science with just enough scripture to lend an air of legitimacy.

The more we engage..... the more opportunity to present his case for objectification. I will not further promote the platform.

How a person could follow the four part links provided at the beginning of the thread, and still want to affirm such a horrible, degrading and sick means of treating women is beyond me.

If I were wearing sandals, I'd be shaking the dust.

Ciao.

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RE: About objectifying women - 5/19/2008 9:22:43 PM   
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Wow...

Jesus didn't come to earth and die on a cross for an object. And men are commanded to love their wives as Christ loved the church.

This isn't a difficult concept...

Viewing any human being as an object is selfish, unloving and un-Christlike.

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RE: About objectifying women - 5/19/2008 11:44:07 PM   
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How do you define "objectifying"?


Viewing a woman as an object to be toyed with rather than a person worthy of respect.


Is this what I said in the first post?

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RE: About objectifying women - 5/20/2008 9:29:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: landabee

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Sorry if I alienated everybody with all this technical mumbojumbo :P]



And why would you suppose/assume that women reading and responding would be alienated "bah dem big ole words?"
Yeah.

You caught that, did you. So did I.
Being the object that I am, my poor little ole brain just simply couldn't keep up.
Why I declare that it fairly flew straight over my little ole head.



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RE: About objectifying women - 5/20/2008 11:55:33 AM   
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Oh, how I love little kittens! They are so soft and furry.

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RE: About objectifying women - 5/20/2008 12:07:27 PM   
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I avoid the OED at times due to its tendency to include "cultural" terms. Maybe they do it to be relevant, but when the discussion is semantic, I find that it muddies things up. Other dictionaries do it too, but from what I've seen, our OED trumps them all.


Interesting, because you use a literary/culturally unused definition by Shakespeare in order to prove your point.



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Main Entry:
1ob·ject
Pronunciation:
\ˈäb-jikt, -(ˌ)jekt\
Function:
noun
1 a: something material that may be perceived by the senses <I see an object in the distance> b: something that when viewed stirs a particular emotion (as pity) <look to the tragic loading of this bed…the object poisons sight; let it be hid — Shakespeare>


You have hardly proven that a human being is an object. You have only the simplest definition here and a trumped up Shakespeare quote. 'Object' has several definitions, one of which describes how calling a person an object ('that old object' for instance) is a slur because of its dehumanization. In that sense 'object' means ugly. All my quotes are Webster's Unabridged btw.

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Now the definition not only covers what I'm trying to say, but it also covers human beings. In fact, I can point out that your extrapolation is clearly incorrect. Human beings have physical natures- physical bodies which obviously comes into the category of "a visible and tangible material product or substance". Our bodies are visible, they are tangible. They may not be fabric, but in the most basic definition, they are substance.


Let me break this down for you linguistically.
Visible=able to see
tangible and material=able to touch
product=a good or service which is the result of a process
substance=matter of definite chemical consistency

Product and substance are never used to describe human beings. There is a reason for this. It is because we use those words to describe things, specifically things which can be manipulated or processed. If this is a cultural ideal then it is one which is held by a majority of the world's languages. Most languages make very clear choices between human/inhuman, animate/inanimate.

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That's a cultural idea, but it is not rational. [I think 99 pct of the people who are angry about my point are cuz they see it culturally and not rationally.]


Yeah, that's not patrionizing.

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We can agree that human beings are not MERELY objects, not JUST objects, not ONLY objects. They are much more. But their physical bodies are, without a doubt categorised as tangible, physical, material objects. This is just reality, isn't it?


Human beings are also mammals but we refrain from calling each other animals. You are male but we try to refrain from calling you 'boy.'

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On your next point of reacting to physical characteristics, your right, 100 percent. But objectification, in this definition (I call it the proper definition because it means what it says ), has nothing to do with the other processes.


You call it the proper definition not because it is correct but because it suits your purposes and is true in your eyes. I have yet to see a defintion which is clear and uninterpreted by you.

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You can process something physically, in an "objective" way, and then move on into understand, feeling, nurturing, empathizing. Or it can even be vice versa, with the emotions coming first, and the objective later (in the case of the internet, we are engaging in the emotions without any objective processing).


Objective, while being related to objectify and object is not the same word and can't be used interchangably. It also has noun and adjective meanings which are slightly different. Be precise.

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But the point I'm making is that these two are distinct and different. The "objective" and the "emphatic"(i think thats the wrong word), are two separate, distinct processes. Just because you objectify does not mean you cannot or will not empathize.


This makes no sense. Go back and check your two quoted terms I think you mean two other words.

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You distinguish between the initial process and objectification, but I think they are one and the same. The initial process does not lead to empathizing and understanding automatically.


Here we get to the crux "I think they are one and the same." Show us how that works. In a properly socialized human being we work from the inside out. When we meet someone new first we examine the world from our centrist/selfish viewpoint (initial reaction). Then we have a moment of recognition that the other person is similar to us, equal to the respect we require for oursleves. In an improperly socialized human being there is no moment of empathy because no one else is equal to the centrist view. I agree that empathy is not automatic in all persons, but do you really want to admit that to that kind of sociopathology? Considering the message of the Gospels I wouldn't think that God created men to be completely centrist with no ability to understand the golden rule.

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I think the true difference between the initial process and objectification is that objectification is when it is carried on for longer for other purposes. A medical checkup often involves treating a physical body like an object and checking physical characteristics. As does sports for another example. The whole thing is objectifying other players, objectifying the ball, perceiving it all in a very objective, physical sense.


I'm sure some doctors and athletes practice objectification (and soldiers for that matter), but I'm not sure we can agree that it is always a healthy means to deal with their occupations.

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But we need to agree on how to define the terms first.
Of course.

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BTW, this is very intellectually stimulating. Thanks for jumping in. I'm eager to hear your response. [Sorry if I alienated everybody with all this technical mumbojumbo :P]


If you want anyone to respond you really need to pull back on the patronizing language. We have no problems understanding you but we may decide you simply aren't worth the time.

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RE: About objectifying women - 5/20/2008 12:18:18 PM   
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Dear me, Tamara.

Color me embarassed!

All this time, I've been thinking you were a woman.

But how could a woman object have written such a intelligent, thought-provoking post.

Silly ole me.




I think I'll go sit with Cranky and play with the soft-furry kitties.

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RE: About objectifying women - 5/20/2008 12:27:50 PM   
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we may decide you simply aren't worth the time.


BINGO!

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RE: About objectifying women - 5/20/2008 2:04:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Calea37

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ORIGINAL: Auben

we may decide you simply aren't worth the time.


BINGO!

I second that motion.

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RE: About objectifying women - 5/20/2008 2:50:07 PM   
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I think I'll go sit with Cranky and play with the soft-furry kitties.


What a delightful thought you dear sweet fragile little thing.

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RE: About objectifying women - 5/20/2008 3:12:03 PM   
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God's law is fundamental truth. Not men or women's thoughts, perceptions blah blah blah. No point in posting further you ladies.. er objects have taken care of that. So I will simply dance on the grave of this thread.

*boogies down*
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RE: About objectifying women - 5/20/2008 3:17:04 PM   
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Oh look, Shugs brought a boom box. Now we can all dance!





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I think I'll go sit with Cranky and play with the soft-furry kitties.


What a delightful thought you dear sweet fragile little thing.



Cranky come sit by me so we can braid each other's hair.

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RE: About objectifying women - 5/20/2008 3:22:12 PM   
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Oh my goodness! I left too soon!

I just have to come back and join you ladies objects in a fiesta of gleeful simpering!

Do these pants make me look fat?

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RE: About objectifying women - 5/20/2008 3:28:47 PM   
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Should I use a bow in my hair? That certainly looks innocent!

Can't forget the makeup. Got to make the most of my pouty lips!

Like my hair? I think it perfectly sets of my femininity admiration factor as an object.


I know that if'n I wants a real live may-yan to pay me attention I need to be the object of his admiration at all times. Even after marriage, my looks will come first if we are to have a healthy sexual relationship.

Gotta stay on my toes.

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RE: About objectifying women - 5/20/2008 11:33:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: landabee
Do these pants make me look fat?


My husband laughed and laughed at this.

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RE: About objectifying women - 5/20/2008 11:35:48 PM   
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I just luvs all you silly girls... Teeheehee!

I guess I should go turn my college degree & high honors back to my university. They must have only given me those things to make me feel better about myself...

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RE: About objectifying women - 5/21/2008 8:18:53 AM   
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So essentially, what the OP is saying is that men are incapable to thinking with their brains, correct??? Only with.............well, you know.

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RE: About objectifying women - 5/21/2008 12:17:58 PM   
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Jalanda and all y'all other wonderful ladies . . . I tried. I really really tried.







But I just can't not say it.







Cuz I'm about to bust over here from keeping it in.







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ORIGINAL: landabee

Even after marriage, my looks will come first if we are to have a healthy sexual relationship.

Gotta stay on my toes.

I just thought the proximity of these two sentences were quite entertainingly interesting.




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RE: About objectifying women - 6/9/2008 1:46:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: landabee

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Sorry if I alienated everybody with all this technical mumbojumbo :P]



And why would you suppose/assume that women reading and responding would be alienated "bah dem big ole words?"


Sorry for the late response. I've been really busy lately. I'm in the process of moving. I believe my search for a place to stay in NYC finally came to an end 3 days ago.

Try as I might, I couldn't find any reference to women in my post. Did I really mean to direct that at women, or are you basing your belief on a false assumption?

I can see the topic riles a lot of people up and makes them respond a bit funny.

But I think the real issue is that social conditioning and popular belief, when not tempered and put in line with God's Word, produces conflict.

We need to let go of society's agenda when it is not in line with God's word. And when the popular stance on the issue ignores human nature, ignores the basic functioning of the brain in order to appease something that is not of God- no matter how good it may feel, it is not good, and it is not right.

And it will be quite evident, when it shows itself going against logic, against nature and against God.

I won't quote every single post, but I will try to respond to all of them. Unless I've responded to them before.
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RE: About objectifying women - 6/9/2008 1:54:36 PM   
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Try as I might, I couldn't find any reference to women in my post. Did I really mean to direct that at women, or are you basing your belief on a false assumption?


This thread is located in "She Says" Only women can respond here.



Nice try.

Glad that you found a new home.

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RE: About objectifying women - 6/9/2008 2:48:52 PM   
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I think that definition covers exactly what I mean. "to value the physical nature of something" is a mere extension of the meaning when you put it in verb form. [I apologise if my English is unclear btw. I'm bad at English but I'm trying ]


The fact that you are bad at English is the problem. You have NO IDEA what hat happen when a person considered an object. You definition is one of several. All must be considered when applied to a person.

Main Entry:
1ob·ject
Pronunciation:
\ˈäb-jikt, -(ˌ)jekt\
Function:
noun
1 a: something material that may be perceived by the senses <I see an object in the distance> b: something that when viewed stirs a particular emotion (as pity) <look to the tragic loading of this bed…the object poisons sight; let it be hid — Shakespeare>

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RE: About objectifying women - 6/9/2008 3:16:04 PM   
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I avoid the OED at times due to its tendency to include "cultural" terms. Maybe they do it to be relevant, but when the discussion is semantic, I find that it muddies things up. Other dictionaries do it too, but from what I've seen, our OED trumps them all.


Interesting, because you use a literary/culturally unused definition by Shakespeare in order to prove your point.



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