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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/18/2008 11:12:05 AM
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tiffywal
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Hubby and I have no hangups either. We have been knowing each other for over 14 years now, we are very comfortable with each other.
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/18/2008 3:19:34 PM
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coinpurse
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My brother farts loudly all the time (in front of wifey too and my mother) and sometimes I think he forces it just to get attention. This is a man who is now 39. I HATE IT. Whatever room he is in, I will leave it immediately (although they never smell). He claims they dont smell because he does it as often a he can and never holds it in.
Hes been married for several years now and the farting in front of everyone continues. Sometimes, he still walks around in his underwear w/his hand in it. I find him gross.
I asked him if his wife farts in front of him like this and he says, if she did, hed leave her....the point being is he doesnt think its ladylike and thinks it rude behavior. but he does it.
His wife laughs and thinks the farts are funny. I find it disgusting. If it comes out and you couldnt help it, fine, just say excuse me. I dont know how i would feel about a husband that farts around like that. Thats gross.
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/18/2008 4:47:07 PM
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Godddy
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Hey everyone,
This was a hilarious comment my roommate's fiance said...we were discussing dating and relationship etiquette and the topic of embarassing moments came up and she mentioned that after six full years of dating and being now engaged that there is nothing she would be embarassed by in front of my roommate (her bf).  Now that's quite awesome to have between two people - a sense of unconditional love and trust. But then she mentioned that the two of them even fart in front of each other nowadays and it does not bother them, because they're so used to each other and it's a natural human function. ...True, it's normal to fart, but wow, does trust, love, and intimacy get to a point where it is that open? ....She said that the first four years or so of dating that the two of them were much more worried about little things like that, but over time, they don't care anymore and do not leave the room to fart and just openly fart around each other if they need to (rather than leaving or holding it in).      
Ok, so let me ask....how many of you are at this stage and what was it like getting there? I wonder if it is just me, but I personally cannot imagine ever farting openly and regularly in front of my spouse or girlfriend, no matter how comfortable we are with each other.  ....I guess it's personal preference, but I still like to keep such things private when possible.
What other etiquette or personal barriers are crossed after marriage? ....Do these things kind of dampen the "flames" of romance?
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 After nearly forty years of being married to the same man, believe me, you will be surprised what you are willing to put up with in the name of love.
My hubby waits till we are in bed, and starts letting them go, then starts shaking the covers.
But you know, I have been pretty sick at times, going both ways and he has cleaned up my messes, and never said a word, so the farts aren't that bad. The word love covers a lot of things, LOL
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/18/2008 4:50:07 PM
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My hubby waits till we are in bed, and starts letting them go, then starts shaking the covers.
Your's too? I thought I was alone in that experience
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/18/2008 4:50:55 PM
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My hubby waits till we are in bed, and starts letting them go, then starts shaking the covers.
Your's too? I thought I was alone in that experience
Definitely not.
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/18/2008 5:21:18 PM
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Ok I'll fess us. When I was married to my 1st husband he thought it inappropriate for a woman to expel gas in public which included him btw.
So one day we we watching Tv and he asked, Did you see it? Didn't you hear it? So naive me is searching for the "barking spider!" I have a scientific type mind and love to check out things like this.
Yup the joke was on me, the only thing that was barking wasn't a spider, but his behind!!!!
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/18/2008 7:31:05 PM
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I can't believe I stumbled across this discussion! It's nice to get away from the "Theology" threads once in a while. I must say I changed quite a bit in my thinking from a single person to a married one. Those who have never married and say they never would ___________ (fill in the blank), well....they may one day be surprised.
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/18/2008 9:06:04 PM
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Well, I think we're finding out that everyone is different when it comes to this. I grew up with men -- my father, brother, cousins, basically almost every male I went to high school and college with -- who thought nothing of breaking wind in public. If they reacted at all, it was to think they were being totally hilarious. I just grew to ignore it.
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/18/2008 9:42:41 PM
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This thread reminds me of Good Will Hunting, when Robin Williams is talking about his wife farting in bed and waking herself and the dog up. . . and he goes on to talk about how it was those little things and the imperfections that were what he loved and missed the most.
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/19/2008 12:27:52 AM
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This thread reminds me of Good Will Hunting, when Robin Williams is talking about his wife farting in bed and waking herself and the dog up. . . and he goes on to talk about how it was those little things and the imperfections that were what he loved and missed the most.
I remember that scene...I loved that movie. I remember laughing so hard too hearing it.
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/19/2008 12:41:59 AM
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I can't believe I stumbled across this discussion! It's nice to get away from the "Theology" threads once in a while. I must say I changed quite a bit in my thinking from a single person to a married one. Those who have never married and say they never would ___________ (fill in the blank), well....they may one day be surprised.
Heavendweller
It isn't the necessity of bodily functions that disturbs me--it is the fact that people seem to need to talk about it on a public forum. 
Personally, I do not care if someone is the island of Krakatoa when it comes to such things, but I do not want to hear about it. If they want to talk about it with their spouse, that is fine--I just don't understand discussing it here. 
LOL ....I don't know. I found the intial discussion and comments from my roommate's GF very funny and interesting. The question, I suppose, is not merely about farting, but about barriers that get redefined in relationships and the effects of those things on romance.
I suppose it would be too much for you if we added picking one's nose to the list? 
I will say that the annoynmity of this forum is what makes it probably easier to discuss. I would have no problem talking about this with close friends like my roomie and his fiance, because it would be funny and interesting...but definitely not with mere acquaintences or strangers such as here. So having a forum to bring these things up is kind of like writing to one of those advice columns about personal questions.
I'm not sure what else we could add to this list of personal barrier/etiquette transgressions during marriage....Actually redefinition is a better word than transgression. ....But things like picking one's nose, burping, putting on wart/fungal creams, dirty laundry, feminine hygiene products (I still don't even know what they are...no sisters growing up), blowing one's nose, smelly feet, etc. will all be seen during marriage after living together for a year.
...I guess that's what scares me, lol. 
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/19/2008 6:09:23 AM
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I am amazed that this thread got as much attention as it did, BUT come to think of it, no matter what I am teaching (drama teacher k-5) I will ALWAYS be upstaged by flatulance. It is annoying but a fact of life. If it was the worst problem I had, I'd have no problems.
As far as the rest of our family silliness and gassiness, I will leave that in my journal to be dug up by historians after we are long dead and gone.
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/19/2008 8:56:48 AM
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I don't think moderators are allowed to ignore threads...
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/19/2008 10:20:18 AM
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Auben
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Perhaps, but they can ask another moderator to cover the thread for them. I see one or two posting here so Ps103 does not have to read this thread.
Gas is gas. It happens. To all of us. We all eat, sleep, breathe, urinate, excrete, sweat. God made those functions for a purpose and He saw that they were good. Who am I to criticize just because I was culturally taught that one bodily function is worse than another?
In my opinion if you know its going to be stinky leave the room or get yourself set up to minimize the effects. That's just common courtesy. If you don't know it's coming or it's light, apologize for the interruption and move on. It's not hilarious. It's not shaming. Perhaps if we treated it as a natural function boys and men would find it less funny.
I've always tried to make my husband as comfortable about his body in my presence as I can. He in turn has always tried to be courteous in that department. That doesn't mean he's stopped having gas in front of me. That just means that he's mindful of my presence and my feelings.
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/19/2008 10:24:17 AM
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Perhaps if we treated it as a natural function boys and men would find it less funny.
actually there is more to it than just that. it makes a noise similar to an earthquake/thunder. basically, its like a gun. and it wounds people's smell.
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/19/2008 10:30:38 AM
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All I know is that I would not get into farting games with my future wife! 
That'd just be too much for me. 
