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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/19/2008 10:58:25 AM
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Godddy
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I must say I changed quite a bit in my thinking from a single person to a married one. Those who have never married and say they never would ___________ (fill in the blank), well....they may one day be surprised.
I like this.
Before I was married, I thought a lot of things were gross and I swore I would never do them. Now, I can't think of a thing that I would not do for my husband. Bodily functions may be "gross," but that is part of the intricate way that God made them to work. And there will likely come a time when one of us will be a caretaker to the other. I can tell you that love transcends all the...ickiness. 
Amen to that, I am a senior now, believe me there is great relief in letting one go at my age. When a doctor asks are you able to pass gas ok. you know its an important body fuction.
I love my hubby, farts and all. after 40 years. of marriage, I would miss them if he weren't here anymore. they may stink, "sometimes" but he is alive.
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/19/2008 11:02:28 AM
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I can't believe I stumbled across this discussion! It's nice to get away from the "Theology" threads once in a while.  I must say I changed quite a bit in my thinking from a single person to a married one. Those who have never married and say they never would ___________ (fill in the blank), well....they may one day be surprised.
Heavendweller
It isn't the necessity of bodily functions that disturbs me--it is the fact that people seem to need to talk about it on a public forum. 
Personally, I do not care if someone is the island of Krakatoa when it comes to such things, but I do not want to hear about it. If they want to talk about it with their spouse, that is fine--I just don't understand discussing it here. 
I agree with you, Kate!
Just because some wives/girlfriends here think their husband's/boyfriend's bodily function noises are endearing or funny or just because they love him so much they have learned to live with it, doesn't mean everyone else on earth wants to hear about it in detail and will be more accepting of it just because they are. Some of us just don't find it to be acceptable behavior.
Thanks, Kat
There used to be a line between was was and was not acceptable conversation in public or in mixed company. At the risk of sounding like my grandmother, I wish some things from the olden days were still in force.
Once a few years ago, a male friend and I were sitting in my car waiting for the rest of the cast to show up for a rehearsal. The first to appear was a young woman and she came and sat in the car too (the car was warmer than the theatre  ). She chattered away, happily, about not only flatulance, but also describing a gynecological examination in jealous detail  . She was tyring to impress us with her "openness." Oh, it impressed us all right...
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/19/2008 11:40:28 AM
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ORIGINAL: Heavendweller
I can't believe I stumbled across this discussion! It's nice to get away from the "Theology" threads once in a while. I must say I changed quite a bit in my thinking from a single person to a married one. Those who have never married and say they never would ___________ (fill in the blank), well....they may one day be surprised.
Heavendweller
It isn't the necessity of bodily functions that disturbs me--it is the fact that people seem to need to talk about it on a public forum.
Personally, I do not care if someone is the island of Krakatoa when it comes to such things, but I do not want to hear about it. If they want to talk about it with their spouse, that is fine--I just don't understand discussing it here.
I agree with you, Kate!
Just because some wives/girlfriends here think their husband's/boyfriend's bodily function noises are endearing or funny or just because they love him so much they have learned to live with it, doesn't mean everyone else on earth wants to hear about it in detail and will be more accepting of it just because they are. Some of us just don't find it to be acceptable behavior.
Thanks, Kat
There used to be a line between was was and was not acceptable conversation in public or in mixed company. At the risk of sounding like my grandmother, I wish some things from the olden days were still in force.
Once a few years ago, a male friend and I were sitting in my car waiting for the rest of the cast to show up for a rehearsal. The first to appear was a young woman and she came and sat in the car too (the car was warmer than the theatre ). She chattered away, happily, about not only flatulance, but also describing a gynecological examination in jealous detail . She was tyring to impress us with her "openness." Oh, it impressed us all right...
Yuck!!
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/19/2008 12:13:58 PM
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Just a few quick thoughts everyone. 
I do apologize if the bluntness of this topic has offended anyone, but hope that you understand the intention (it was a genuine question) and not be too upset. I suppose I could have worded my question in a more tasteful way, but given the topic itself, I just thought it was best to treat it lightly as social conversation and not too seriously (as to not make things too awkward). I just thought back to my original conversation with my roommate's fiance and it was funny when we first brought it up and very light-hearted. If it has been offensive to anyone, I will stop posting and/or change the tone.
Another general thought was that on top of just flatulating, I realize how many more "imperfections" we'll see in our spouse after marriage. Given that everyone puts the best foot forward during their period of dating and first impressions, and that we are all imperfect beings, I am guessing after say 20 years of marriage that farting may not even be the most annoying of things. I remember hearing a young lady from church being upset after marriage (or perhaps just disillusioned), because her husband and married life was very different in private than she thought. She mentioned how his personal hygiene and manners weren't as good in everyday life after marriage (versus dating). You know, not just the "imperfections," but the idea of being around her spouse so much and feeling a loss of singles "freedom" or even being bored at times around her husband. I guess these are all things that happen and have to be discussed or worked on. So I'm seeing marriage as not just an end-goal (you get there and everything is happy and perfect), but a starting point of having to work on something new in life - even if it has its imperfections. 
My final thought was that I think in our very wealthy society that we seem more blessed by luxury so as to think certain things less acceptable than what happens as "normal" everyday life by many others. I was just thinking that in Biblical times or even in other countries today, I think people do not even have the luxury of showers and dental care (yet are married), let alone worry about farting in front of their spouse. Now that's not to say that if they did have these luxuries as in America that they wouldn't think like us either, but just that in a broader perspective that the rest of the world probably has a much "lower" standard of tolerance for marriage behavior. Imagine living in ancient times with no soap or floss or shampoo, etc.  Yikes!  I remember the same church girl from above saying that after their fourth month of marriage, she was almost forced to realize the natural imperfections of her hubby. Everyone morning or so when she woke up, she found (ok this is kind of gross, but natural, so skip this to next paragraph if you don't want to read) that his breath was not very pleasant and that there was small lumpy particles of stool often sticking to the toilet that were unflushed.   Now the first few weeks, she said she quitely and politely tried to just flush the toilet and not say anything, but after a while she had to address it, because it was so bothersome. Apparently he did not have enough fiber in his diet and he was not aware of the toilet problem of needing to flush twice to completely rid the bowl of waste. But it was these exact issues that inevitably come up during marriage she realized. I remember her being kind of disillusioned during Bible study about these things, but eventually got over them. I guess I realize we will all have to deal with these things in life with our spouse. They are human too. I just wish we didn't, but what can you do? 
Hope that provides a bit more perspective and hope to still hear back from everyone. If need be, maybe we need to write a "warning" message before anything that could be possibly gross to someone so they can skip ahead in the post? That might be best.
Also, I'm still wondering more of (now that I've mentally, though not emotionally, accepted the inevitable imperfections part of marriage) how romance is affected by these things and how one might recapture the romance of couples life after the initial "shocks" of these things?
-Imit 
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/19/2008 12:22:31 PM
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Also, I'm still wondering more of (now that I've mentally, though not emotionally, accepted the inevitable imperfections part of marriage) how romance is affected by these things and how one might recapture the romance of couples life after the initial "shocks" of these things?
Not at all. Not even related. (Nor should it be.)
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/19/2008 1:34:16 PM
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I don't really see romance tied to gas (or the lack thereof). That's like saying washing dishes or the toilet (or seeing the other perform those services) stops you from being able to visualize the other romantically. Or a husband watching his wife give birth...I would say that was much more psychologically unsexy and yet its a very intimate and beautiful moment.
For specific moments its more along the line of hiccuping while kissing or accidentally elbowing someone while cuddling. It may take a moment to recover but the amount of recovery time has more to do with your attitude then anything else.
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/19/2008 2:36:18 PM
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I am somewhat impressed by so many's apparent gaseous control. Can y'all hold burps and hiccups too?
I have no problem tolerating my hubby's blasts. After all, he tolerates mine. As far as it possibly being a romance killer...that's what candles are for.
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/19/2008 4:03:04 PM
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You're welcome!
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/19/2008 5:29:29 PM
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DustyLady
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LOL!! It is a good idea to keep the candles at a bit of a distance.
You might want to avoid lighting a cigarette as well.
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/19/2008 9:06:21 PM
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who cares? Clearly enough people to hit page 3!
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/20/2008 7:01:07 AM
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I cracked up last night, while watching television, when a commercial came on that reminded me of this thread. Some of you may have seen it; I think it's very well done.
A typical middle-class American family is having dinner at some friends' house when the father announces that he is going to leave the room to pass gas. The host states that he can do it right there, there is no reason to leave the room. However, the daughter of the potential gas-passer protests about how deadly her father's gasses are. It turns out the man is going outside to smoke a cigarette.
Oh, well. I thought it was cute. Sitting here, just now, I wonder which would be worse -- having your husband/wife break wind in front of you, or smoke in your presence? I know that I wouldn't care about the first, but the latter might cause a bit more strife in our household.
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/20/2008 3:06:51 PM
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I used to get quite anxious about flatulence in the presence of loved ones, but I eventually recalled the wisdom of Solomon -
This too shall pass...
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/20/2008 7:17:14 PM
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My husband does in front of me, and they are noisey. I tell him he has a motor boat in his pants.
I don't do it front of him unless it is an accident. He thinks that it is dumb for me to run to the bathroom all the time if I have gas.
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RE: Breaking wind in front of Significant Other - 5/20/2008 10:40:18 PM
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