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Zeeboe -> Furious at my Mother. (6/14/2008 6:07:48 AM)

I rather not go into detail, but my Mother really upset me on Friday night. A night I was looking forward to, and it really effected me. Now I admit, it is somewhat my fault for allowing her to upset me so much, and taking it so seriously. But I couldn't help it. Looking back, I wish I didn't get so upset. I wish I wouldn't have even brought up the subject that caused all this nonsense in the first place. But I did react the way I did, and now I have to live with it.

I was furious at her all evening long, and even during the night. She made me so angry for ruining a night I was looking forward to and destorying my plans by making me angry that I only got two hours of sleep last night. This is not the first time she has done something like this. She did it last week too, but I was able to forget about it, and move on. But two weeks in a row was too much for me.

I still have a lot of anger inside me. Please pray that I am able to calm down, and truly forgive her without feeling like I have to because she's my Mother and the bible says to honor her.

The thing is, I love my Mother a lot and that's why it hurts so much when she hurts me like this. I don't even remember being this angry and for so long. I also don't recall being so angry to the point that I couldn't sleep. Please pray. Please pray that I am able to calm down, forgive and forget and that perhaps my night tonight can be saved.



manda59 -> RE: Furious at my Mother. (6/14/2008 6:28:25 AM)

Praying for you.



conrack50 -> RE: Furious at my Mother. (6/14/2008 7:39:10 AM)

Zeeboe,
Once when my Mom was still alive, we went 3 yrs without speaking. I know you've heard it before but she's the only Mom you have and that's it. I can't get the 3 yrs back now but I made up for it before she passed away. Sometimes when they get older, things just happen because of their age.
The devil has found another button to push as I call it. I'm not one to practice what I say either but you need to move on from this anger. It's not good for you spiritually, mentally, and physically.

Father God,
We ask that you comfort Zeeboe and her Mom.
We ask that you replace her anger with joy and peace.
Give her understanding and wisdom where these issues stand concerning herself and her mother.
We ask that you place a hedge of protection around these 2 women Father God.
Wrap them both in your loving arms Father.
We ask this in Jesus Name, Amen


Connie Lou



peaceofGod -> RE: Furious at my Mother. (6/14/2008 8:32:20 AM)

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ORIGINAL: conrack50
Father God,
We ask that you comfort Zeeboe and her Mom.
We ask that you replace her anger with joy and peace.
Give her understanding and wisdom where these issues stand concerning herself and her mother.
We ask that you place a hedge of protection around these 2 women Father God.
Wrap them both in your loving arms Father.
We ask this in Jesus Name, Amen

Connie Lou

Amen. Please inject your love into their relationship.



sparkleingsnow -> RE: Furious at my Mother. (6/14/2008 9:44:51 AM)

Father, asking that You would turn anger into forgiveness in Zeeboe's heart. That You would bless this mother and son with a wonderful relationship. That mom would guide with gentleness and love and Zeeboe receive guideance with a humble and loving heart. That he would not not let anything that anyone says steal his joy and peace. We love You dear Father, and ask for Your help for Zeeboe and his mom. In Jesus name. Amen



petaluma -> RE: Furious at my Mother. (6/14/2008 1:18:23 PM)

I'm very close to my mother. My mother makes me very angry too
sometimes. I will be praying for you, and thinking about you.
God bless.



Zeeboe -> RE: Furious at my Mother. (6/14/2008 1:47:14 PM)

I'll go ahead and tell you all what happened. A relaxing evening I was looking forward to last night was ruined because of my Mother. But I am at fault too for being so sensitive and overreacting. I'm wanting to move out. I was just paid from work and was just telling her how much money I had saved up. So she pulls out a piece of paper and pen and starts writing all this stuff down, trying to prove to me that I can't move out. Even though I plan to save and get a second job. But she tells me in a very annoyed and frustrated voice that I don't understand, but I think she's the one who doesn't understand. I also know that she doesn't want me to move out. She is always telling me how every bit of money I make will have to go towards rent, and I'm fine with that. I just wish she would support my dream. Anyway, last night all I wanted to do was having a relaxing evening and watch some films, but she upset me so much that I couldn't and the whole night was ruined for me. A night I was looking forward to. She ruined last Friday night for me too...another night I was looking forward to with her nonsense, but that's a different story.

I'm also way too sensitive, and I suffer from O. C. D. where I obsess over bad memories. Being like this had lead me to having acid reflex anytime I get upset, or anytime I see something that reminds me of a bad memory. Anyway, I'm worried now that when I do go to watch those movies that I'm going to be reminded of the fight and get acid reflex, and the movies will be ruined for me.

My Mother and I are back on talking terms, but I'm not over it. I'm still upset, and even got only four hours of sleep last night. I couldn't sleep for a long time, then when I did sleep..it was only for two hours. I was up for a while, but then finally fell asleep, but again it was only for two hours. I'm pretty tired now and feel hung-over.



Keabird -> RE: Furious at my Mother. (6/14/2008 7:06:42 PM)

Sounds to me as if your mother was only trying to be helpful. In fact she reminds me a little of myself! [:)] Sometimes my older kids will run their plans by me, and in an effort to be helpful, to make sure they have considered all the ramifications and possibilities, I will say,"but what about this?" Sometimes they get annoyed at me. And I say I was only trying to be helpful.

I do pray for healing and understanding between you and your mother.

I do want to say though Zeeboe, that your anger is your issue, not your mother's. No one "makes" us get angry - we grow into the habit of allowing ourselves to quickly become angry over years of not learning self-control and not learning healthier reactions. Many people struggle with that one. Perhaps others in your family have the same struggle? We need to ask the Holy Spirit to retrain our reactions with His thinking and His reactions. So I ask Him to help you with this part of it.

Thank You Lord for hearing our prayers for Zeeboe.



Imnotmyown -> RE: Furious at my Mother. (6/14/2008 8:31:38 PM)

Praying for you Zeeboe!

Father, please bring people into Zeeboe's
life that encourage his dreams. Please heal
the relationship between Zeeboe and his mom.
In Jesus Name Amen



JMCrwd -> RE: Furious at my Mother. (6/14/2008 9:55:07 PM)

will be praying for you.



kyl -> RE: Furious at my Mother. (6/14/2008 11:02:09 PM)

Lord please help zeeboe in every area of his life.
I pray Lord you will help him through this pain and anger.
I pray Lord that good things will be learned from this experience.
I pray both mother and son will glorify you with their lives.
May your will be done Lord.
In Jesus Name
Amen



OneJohn410 -> RE: Furious at my Mother. (6/14/2008 11:53:33 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Zeeboe

I'll go ahead and tell you all what happened. A relaxing evening I was looking forward to last night was ruined because of my Mother. But I am at fault too for being so sensitive and overreacting. I'm wanting to move out. I was just paid from work and was just telling her how much money I had saved up. So she pulls out a piece of paper and pen and starts writing all this stuff down, trying to prove to me that I can't move out. Even though I plan to save and get a second job. But she tells me in a very annoyed and frustrated voice that I don't understand, but I think she's the one who doesn't understand. I also know that she doesn't want me to move out. She is always telling me how every bit of money I make will have to go towards rent, and I'm fine with that. I just wish she would support my dream. Anyway, last night all I wanted to do was having a relaxing evening and watch some films, but she upset me so much that I couldn't and the whole night was ruined for me. A night I was looking forward to. She ruined last Friday night for me too...another night I was looking forward to with her nonsense, but that's a different story.

I'm also way too sensitive, and I suffer from O. C. D. where I obsess over bad memories. Being like this had lead me to having acid reflex anytime I get upset, or anytime I see something that reminds me of a bad memory. Anyway, I'm worried now that when I do go to watch those movies that I'm going to be reminded of the fight and get acid reflex, and the movies will be ruined for me.

My Mother and I are back on talking terms, but I'm not over it. I'm still upset, and even got only four hours of sleep last night. I couldn't sleep for a long time, then when I did sleep..it was only for two hours. I was up for a while, but then finally fell asleep, but again it was only for two hours. I'm pretty tired now and feel hung-over.


Zeeboe,
I'm in prayer for this situation, too. I was reading these previous posts, and had some thoughts to share. Parents can read all they care to about how to be good parents, just school themselves till they can barely stand it, but in the end, they usually only have the chance to be one maybe to one or three children, and that's it. They've only had one childhood and one opportunity to dream big dreams, and it may just be that you were a part of your mom's big dreams in life. Don't hold her to being the perfect mom- just let her know you love her for who she is and what she does for you. Gut it out one day and run the numbers with her, watch her write them on paper and listen to what she's thinking and what she's telling you. Ask her where she thinks you might pick up some additional money. Let her know you don't have any interest in going off on your own and financially falling on your face. I just have to believe she really does want you to follow your dreams, and live victoriously, and that you've just got to let her tell you so in her own way.

In His awesome love,
OneJohn410



Zeeboe -> RE: Furious at my Mother. (6/15/2008 11:02:09 PM)

Alright, here's an update:

My father used to play for a band locally. He stopped for a while, but recently returned. Anyway, my Mother and I were going to go out with him since there was a biker ralley in town this weekend, and sometimes when that happens..we go out there. We didn't go out Friday night, that was when the infamous fight happened. But we were going to go out Saturday. I decided to still go, and try to forgive and forget. This was decided at the last minute, but as we were almost at the door...my Father a.k.a. the world's biggest 5-years old throws this temper tauntrum and is ringing the door bell and screaming and cursing at the top of his lungs because he's worried that he's going to be late because of us. Right there and then I decided not to go, and wished him good-bye. My Mother also decided not to go after that ut burst, and my father just stormed off. My Mother and I later went out on our own with a friend of the family's.

So how about that? We made up because of my father's actions. The Lord works in a strange way. I recall as a kid whenever my sister and I fought, and we brought the problem to our father, he'd always freak out and lose his temper and scream and curse at us, and when he did that..my sister and I made up. I guess my father is good for a few things after all, but that's another subject.

Anyway, I know I am way too old for this nonsense. Way too old. And I am a 25-year old man too. I sometimes wish I was a woman because society doesn't judge women as much for living at home since a "man" hasn't come in and taken them away.

It's embarrassing at my age to have to go through this. I originally was going to move out next summer, but it may have to be in the next few months.

In closing, I thank you guys for the prayers. My whole point of this is that I was upset for my night be ruined, but truly...I ruined for myself. I'm too sensitive and shouldn't let things get to me. But I'm moving on. Like I said, there will be other Friday night's, and so much worst has happened in life. I am finally seeing a new head doctor tomorrow that has a few voodoo tricks to deal with my O. C. D. issues. Please pray it goes well.



barbi -> RE: Furious at my Mother. (6/16/2008 8:17:39 AM)

will continue to keep in prayer

sometimes though, you will have to put your foot down and say "I am not a child. I am 25 years old.

Honoring doesn't mean you allow your parents to walk all over you.



sparkleingsnow -> RE: Furious at my Mother. (6/16/2008 8:43:05 AM)

Father, asking that You would use this new doctors treatments to help Zeeboe with his OCD. That You would help him to learn to not respond in anger to what others may say. That when he starts to dwell on bad memorys, You will bring to mind something good to dwell on instead. That You would bless Zeeboe, his mom and the rest of the family. That Zeeboe will draw ever closer to You and that this will be reflected in all he says, does, and thinks. That You will help him make his dreams come true as he focuses on You. In Jesus name. Amen



Imnotmyown -> RE: Furious at my Mother. (6/22/2008 9:49:30 PM)

Thinking of you Zeeboe,

prayers.......



love4theLord -> RE: Furious at my Mother. (6/22/2008 10:10:01 PM)

Well, I am happy that you and your mom are ok now..God works all things for the good!
I hope your dr appt goes well, trust me I know about OCD issues...I went through that for
years and didn't even realize I had it..Now it is gone thank goodness, but question for you,
what did you mean by voodoo tricks??? I hope you were just talking figuratively....

I am praying for you...

kc



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