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RE: The easily offended - 7/2/2008 11:53:22 PM
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Kerrlaw
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Someone making the first post on a page and not quoting the post that she was referring to can offend one who is not a gentleman.
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RE: The easily offended - 7/2/2008 11:59:38 PM
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zman, if the guy you work with is named Louis. Please email me.
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RE: The easily offended - 7/3/2008 7:30:40 AM
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one reason why christians do not correct other christians is because they don't want to offend people.
SonInMe, your entire post was right on, and the above is definitely a problem for me. It's tough!
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RE: The easily offended - 7/3/2008 10:09:45 AM
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Good thread, very interesting to read.
Well, I do think that the whole victim/woe-is-me mentality has contributed to an increase in people feeling offended.
Sometimes I wonder if people sit around all day waiting for someone to say something they think is offensive so they can cry "I'm offended!".
I think this ties into how PC everyone is, you know, you have to use the right words or you may offend someone! 
I think the fact people can't take constructive criticism anymore also is related to this over-sensitiveness many people have.
Even criticism that is meant to help a person is looked upon as a personal attack, so you can't even point out, "Well, maybe you could have done this better..." without someone thinking you are attacking them as a person and not trying to point out a mistake or something they could improve upon.
I hope that made sense, that's just something I have observed.
There will always be people that see bad in everything, and everything a person says, so I don't think the burden of responsibility should be on you.
It's not your fault if someone has a problem with what you say, especially if you did not intentionally say something to be offensive or provoking.
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RE: The easily offended - 7/3/2008 11:04:23 AM
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We have an entire generation of people who got prizes and trophies even if they did not perform well, who let employers know they will never work weekends, and who expect to be coddled by churches as well.
The Jello generation is running amok and is used to pampering. The hard truth is something they have not faced, and are easily offended.
I don't pat backs unless it is deserved.
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RE: The easily offended - 7/3/2008 1:34:58 PM
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We have an entire generation of people who got prizes and trophies even if they did not perform well, who let employers know they will never work weekends, and who expect to be coddled by churches as well.
I like to call this American Idol Syndrome. When there is a really bad horrid singer and ALL THREE judges including Paula tell said person that they cannot sing and they throw a tantrum.
Parents and well meaning friends have told this person that they can sing because they don't want hurt said person feeling. Instead they should have directed said person to their true talent.
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RE: The easily offended - 7/3/2008 1:56:55 PM
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ORIGINAL: saraimay75
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We have an entire generation of people who got prizes and trophies even if they did not perform well, who let employers know they will never work weekends, and who expect to be coddled by churches as well.
I like to call this American Idol Syndrome. When there is a really bad horrid singer and ALL THREE judges including Paula tell said person that they cannot sing and they throw a tantrum.
Parents and well meaning friends have told this person that they can sing because they don't want hurt said person feeling. Instead they should have directed said person to their true talent.
Most excellent!!! I think THIS deserves STARS!!!
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RE: The easily offended - 7/3/2008 2:35:08 PM
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Rufas2000
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We have an entire generation of people who got prizes and trophies even if they did not perform well, who let employers know they will never work weekends, and who expect to be coddled by churches as well.
I'm totally with you on the first and third thing but why would the middle one (bold) be a problem? If you have worked hard enough to become valuable enough to make the demand and have your employer accept it why would that be a problem? People work hard at least partly so they can earn benefits such as these.
This sort of thing is fixes itself, if you demand every weekend off and you are not valuable enough to do so (i.e. did not "earn" it) then the employer will correct your wrong assumption.
Of course you could also choose a profession where weekend work isn't an issue.
Great thread.
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RE: The easily offended - 7/3/2008 3:03:40 PM
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one reason why christians do not correct other christians is because they don't want to offend people.
I have seen the complete opposite on these forums.
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RE: The easily offended - 7/3/2008 3:10:48 PM
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I'm jumping in this awfully late, but has anyone brought up the Scripture, "Love is not easily offended"?
Of course, now that I'm doing a search on it (1 Corinthians 13:5), I see that most versions don't use that word but use "provoked" instead.
However, I think the point is still a good one. If you are acting in love towards someone, you won't fly off the handle, jump to conclusions, and be easily offended. Instead, you'll check yourself and clarify the issue/statement before determining if the other person really meant to offend.
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RE: The easily offended - 7/3/2008 3:16:30 PM
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Biblical "offense" or "offend" means to make one stumble, to make one falter in the faith. It's far different than "hurting someone's feelings."
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RE: The easily offended - 7/3/2008 3:20:03 PM
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solo_soprano22
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ORIGINAL: saraimay75
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We have an entire generation of people who got prizes and trophies even if they did not perform well, who let employers know they will never work weekends, and who expect to be coddled by churches as well.
I like to call this American Idol Syndrome. When there is a really bad horrid singer and ALL THREE judges including Paula tell said person that they cannot sing and they throw a tantrum.
Parents and well meaning friends have told this person that they can sing because they don't want hurt said person feeling. Instead they should have directed said person to their true talent.
I'd really rather someone just keep it real with me, personally. I know people who tell their kids they can sing wonderfully, then when they get out and go for an audtion and get their feelings hurt they can't believe it. My mom told me I'm too critical of people (thier singing, because I'm a singer)... but after a certain point, it's to everyone's benefit to just be honest, esp. if the person is choosing to put themselves out there like that. Now if the woman next to me in church is off-key, it doesn't matter. She's not putting herself out there. I'm not saying be rude, but just tell the truth. There's a way to tell someone they're off-key without saying they can't carry a tune if you gave them a bucket. Of course I've had criticisms also, but they help you learn...even the really bad ones... and of course, *I* put myself out there to get criticized anyway. I can't throw a fit because the JUDGE tells me I took a breath in the wrong spot. I chose to be judged.
On AI though, I've seen some judges (like Randy) say something like "your singing isn't great, but you're a great dancer." I think that's a better way to tell someone they're not the best singer without turning into Simon.
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RE: The easily offended - 7/3/2008 3:30:40 PM
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Biblical "offense" or "offend" means to make one stumble, to make one falter in the faith. It's far different than "hurting someone's feelings."
Absolutely. So Psalm 119:165 says:
Those who love Thy law have great peace,
And nothing causes them to stumble. NASB
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Great peace have they that love Thy law
And nothing shall offend them. KJV
If I am offended, I am causing MYSELF to stumble. That is exactly the point. And that is why I quote this verse over and over and over again. If I am ruled by the Prince of Peace, I will not take offense.
Isn't that your understanding, jimbo?
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RE: The easily offended - 7/3/2008 3:35:58 PM
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...and how many times have you posted something..and have it totally misconstrued? There are a few of ya....that do not like me...and I can post the most wonderful loving comment...and be torn apart for it.
....and some people...have NO sence of humor.
....and some people come here just to be offended.
...and some people...gee...just cannot accpet the fact....I can make some sence once in a while.
....and some people are so caught up in their doctrines or politics that any contrary opinion they take as a personal attack.
...and some people are not like this at all. Sometimes when I get into posting to someone who disagrees with me, multiple posts, it begins to feel so bad...I just stop, agree to disagree and move on.
Once in a while the best post...is the one you never write.
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RE: The easily offended - 7/3/2008 4:11:21 PM
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political correctness leads to more misunderstanding and the bad kind of silliness. I tell kids that they make poor and bad choices. Someone was offended and told me they never say that a kid is bad. (by the way, I did not call the kid bad. I was describing their choice) This offended person would tell pre schoolers that they made a "not so good" choice. Sheesh, and in their young brain how are they supposed to translate that? "I'm bad.... the teacher is upset with me... etc" I told her that I use less syllables and she continued to fuss, "I teach my kids big words", to which I replied, " I do too...." and to which I did not add, "just not mumbo jumbo">
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