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ORIGINAL: supernova1976
I am a single mother, and am at a place in my walk where I could not fathom setting that kind of example to my children, and actively seeking it so that I could be "happy". Do I enjoy being alone? heck no. It hurts like you wouldn't believe going to sleep every night by myself, but what choice do I have? I am not married and I am not about to have my boyfriend sleep over just so that I could be "happy". I am not a perfect person and I have made my mistakes, but God has taught me that my children are the most important job I will ever have, not my love life. It is hard. I get lonely A LOT. I am lonely right now. I am envious of friends of mine that are happy with their boyfriends that help them out with their children and can have a sense of unity with someone and I sit back and go "no, I cannot just have some guy move in with me so that raising my children can be easier". I plug into my church and I find that most of the friendships I have acquired are fair-weather and not real.

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I wonder if it his way of teaching me that if we don't pour our every being into him and building a relationship with him, we are bound to be disappointed because people are not always the nicest and they some don't even care about you the way you need to be cared about. At the throne we are not gonna have our posee standing next to us so we have to remember who we will end up seeing and facing in the end

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Some Christians don't understand this and they gather together and forget the lost at times. In fact some of the nicest friends I have are not Christian and that is sad to me. I guess that is why I responded the way I did earlier over the "jump" onto another person's sin, because I receive more condemnation than compassion for the most part on every kind of issue I face in my walk and it never works, so I was being sensitive to the possibility that Mulato would not take to that well and feel judged so I apologize. I have been in Mulato's shoes before and sometimes you just cannot see it. You are so caught up in someone else you cannot see that you have broken God's heart. We justify the sin, minimize it, or say to God, "I will fix this later" and that is not how God works. He is not going to sit back and say "well, okay as long as you two are happy".

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I am now a single woman that is going on almost a year with having no sex and living strictly for God. I went my entire adult life sinning by sleeping with other men because I learned at a very young age, that this is what makes men "happy". I was molested and obviously struggled with issues in that arena and I learned the hard way, that sex is not love. It is the hardest thing, but I am learning why he created this law. It is for our good. We give something away that belongs for marriage and it destroys the relationship, not just the one with the person you love, but the one with God as well. God has healed me and brought me through it and his grace is sufficient and he has welcome me back. Mulato he can do the same for you, but please I urge you, if you want a healthy honest and honorable relationship with God you have to stop having sex with her. If you struggle with this ask him for help to release you from this bondage. Imagine that if you are having sex with her outside of marriage, that God is in that room and he sees it all. It isn't worth it. I want to correct you gently because that is what God calls us to do. I have been there in my own way so I can say to you "I know it is hard". But please do not be deceived by thinking this is love. Love waits. Love is patient, and love is kind, it is not self seeking and not easily angered. I would ask God to empower you with that philosophy with her so that your main goal is to see that not only you are reconciled with him, but that she is too. If you want to show her love, let that be your main goal right now.

Best Wishes.