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hnt -> RE: I just don't know..... (1/9/2009 10:46:59 AM)
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Please stand strong, and know that people are praying for you! [;)]
Numbest isn't the reason to go back with him. God would wish you to go back to him for the right reasons. I don't know how long he plans to stay, but remember it could be a short battle for you. Exhausting battle? FOR SURE, but I pray that his visit is short.
I see alot of talk about communication within marriage, and I do agree that is a very important portion! I'm not mininizing that. Let me generalize for a moment. What do they get when they communicate? I would assume the goal is some type of resolution correct? Sometimes we agree to go one way or the other, and sometimes we bend our ideas...and sometimes it goes in a whole different direction. Sometimes both are strong with what has been decided, and other times people go into it for other reasons. The goal you see - no matter which way it went - is for the couple to come together and reach a resolution. They are both on the same page, and they work together for that goal.
The resolution is missing in your equation. Heck communication hasn't even started to be honest! WHERE it may be nice that he has shown up, and it may look like a pretty little picture - there has been no preparation, no communication, and no talk of resolution. No goals and no commitments made from deep in their hearts and souls. No trust mended, and no honor and love in the true sense being offered.
They need to truly look at what is on the table here! I think you know but feel pulled and tugged from all directions. You may be numb because you are overwhelmed with all the messages of people just wanting to place a happy ending on things. They don't have to worry about you anymore. Family complete. The end.
That's fantasy, and where it would be NICE for it to turn out that way - the story hasn't even started. Has he even started to repent over his sins towards his family? Doesn't sound like it. That isn't going to be easy for someone like him I'm sure. If he wants his family back - being humble about that portion is an awesome place to start. It could break the ice.
I think tough love at times is the best thing people can offer those that are so broken yet feel entitled to what they want. He knew he couldn't get it the way he would need to go about it, so he tries a different path. One with less effort, and nothing taken from him.
I know you have been struggling in alot of areas. I think God at times placing us on that path to change us into someone that he will use later. Goodness knows he changed this naive 20 something girl into someone I never dreamed possible. lol I'm still a work in progress, but as I look back it was painful but it was for my own good as well. I see things now I never could see before.
Hold strong and do what God leads you to do. He does open doors when you think all of them are shut. He reveals paths when you see no path in sight. He makes us stronger than we realized when we look at what we have endured so far. He protects us even when we feel to wounded to get up.
I'm praying for you all.
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