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The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 11:14:55 AM
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Prairiehiker
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THis is a gift for OneJohn. He's been asking for a new thread. So here goes.
Would you marry a person who is not interested in sex if everything else about him or her is perfect by your standard?
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 11:28:07 AM
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Absolutely not...the Bible says, "It is better to marry than to burn." To me, while that shouldn't be the only reason to marry, it definitely is A reason..that would spell misery for me. No way, Jose.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 11:35:26 AM
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Prairiehiker
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Whew! Thanks Jewel. I know I can always count on you to answer questions that are somewhat controversial.
I'm with you on that one!
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 12:24:14 PM
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Nope!!!!!!
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 1:11:12 PM
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Yes, I would (I think I would; I guess I'd never know until I was presented with situation). It'd probably be easier on me personally if I could marry (and date) that way. :)
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 1:41:07 PM
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Nope!
It's one thing to marry and then something happens to your spouse and for some reason they are no longer interested, such as mental or physical health problems. I marry for better or worse, in sickness and health.
But to right up front know they aren't interested?
Nope.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 1:57:27 PM
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Yes I would.....it would be easier if you ask me. It seems all people build their relationship is sex these days, even Chrisitians so I would for sure marry someone who was not intereste in sex if everything else was good.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 4:34:45 PM
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Would you marry a person who is not interested in sex if everything else about him or her is perfect by your standard?
Nope.
There is actually a man interested in me who has expressed that and so he will forever stay on the "just friends" list. 
Like some other posters I honestly can't see why you'd bother "get married" anyways. Get a puppy if you just want company. They're easier to take care of.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 4:45:08 PM
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ShallbeRebuilt
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quote:
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Would you marry a person who is not interested in sex if everything else about him or her is perfect by your standard?
Nope.
There is actually a man interested in me who has expressed that and so he will forever stay on the "just friends" list.
Like some other posters I honestly can't see why you'd bother "get married" anyways. Get a puppy if you just want company. They're easier to take care of.
Song;
I beg to differ. If you must get a puppy, get a stuffed one. Puppies, despite the hype that says differently, cannot always be housetrained. I'm given to understand that this is true of spouses as well, but be that as it may, I got a puppy. Many thousands of dollars in floor coverings later, I have realized three things. That 1) puppies grow up, but they don't always mature. They will, however, always manure: and 2) quite often the companionship is not always worth it and 3) there is an amazing selection of high-priced floor coverings on the market.
Cats are similar.
If you must get a live pet for companionship, get a fish.
I suggest rather that you become a collector of stuffed animals. It WILL be cheaper and less annoying in the long run. Carefully investing could eventually bring IN returns on collectibles rather than costing MORE and then ending up by actually celebrating a greasy spot on the road.
I got enough high-maintenance critters in my life now...
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 4:56:20 PM
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quote:
ORIGINAL: ShallbeRebuilt
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ORIGINAL: song
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ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker
Would you marry a person who is not interested in sex if everything else about him or her is perfect by your standard?
Nope.
There is actually a man interested in me who has expressed that and so he will forever stay on the "just friends" list.
Like some other posters I honestly can't see why you'd bother "get married" anyways. Get a puppy if you just want company. They're easier to take care of.
Song;
I beg to differ. If you must get a puppy, get a stuffed one. Puppies, despite the hype that says differently, cannot always be housetrained. I'm given to understand that this is true of spouses as well, but be that as it may, I got a puppy. Many thousands of dollars in floor coverings later, I have realized three things. That 1) puppies grow up, but they don't always mature. They will, however, always manure: and 2) quite often the companionship is not always worth it and 3) there is an amazing selection of high-priced floor coverings on the market.
Cats are similar.
If you must get a live pet for companionship, get a fish.
I suggest rather that you become a collector of stuffed animals. It WILL be cheaper and less annoying in the long run. Carefully investing could eventually bring IN returns on collectibles rather than costing MORE and then ending up by actually celebrating a greasy spot on the road.
I got enough high-maintenance critters in my life now...
shallbe
Hehe! Men aren't much easier than this! Especially in their teenage years.  Trails of dirty laundry, piles of dishes after they decide to fix dinner, candy wrappers and potato chip bags all over the house... Ok, so they don't pee on the carpet, but they do drive vehicles that are significantly more expensive than carpet... yup a new kitty is looking pretty attractive right now. 
To answer the OP: No way. I like Kell's answer. If I'm going to share my life with someone, sharing my body will be the next step. If I cannot do that, how much intimacy will there be? Of course, things happen after the wedding that are beyond our control and you learn to adjust. But to go in to a marriage with the expectation there will be no sex... no, that just won't work.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 6:03:16 PM
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No. It is honestly too high on the needs list for me.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 6:18:37 PM
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quote:
ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker
THis is a gift for OneJohn. He's been asking for a new thread. So here goes.
Would you marry a person who is not interested in sex if everything else about him or her is perfect by your standard?
Absolutely not. A good marriage requires good sex as sex is a bonding activity (for me at least).
Besides that it would be kind of silly to put with all the various little annoyances (and we all have them, even me!!) if I don't even get to have sex. If you're not going to consummate the marriage (a lot ) why bother even getting married.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 6:21:10 PM
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Prairiehiker
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Thanks for the honest reponses everyone. Please feel free to post any "would you marry" question in this thread.
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Search me, Oh God, and know my heart
Try me, and know my anxieties;
And see if there is any wicked way in me, and
Lead me in the way everlasting Psalm 139:22-24
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 6:25:58 PM
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JoeyWest
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would you marry someone whom you argued lots with?
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 6:42:35 PM
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twinkly
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Even YOU John O? Even you have your little quirks... Gee, no way! pfst! yea right.
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Would I marry someone I argue a lot with? Well, if we are arguing before marriage, that is not a good flag for me. I'd have to say I would have to take a good long hard look at why we did not get along and see if it could be remedied before I ever thought of marrying the person.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 6:47:09 PM
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John_O
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quote:
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Even YOU John O? Even you have your little quirks... Gee, no way! pfst! yea right.
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No really. I can be annoying sometimes. I know it is very hard to believe but the OH demands that I be truthful about this.
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Would I marry someone I argue a lot with? Well, if we are arguing before marriage, that is not a good flag for me. I'd have to say I would have to take a good long hard look at why we did not get along and see if it could be remedied before I ever thought of marrying the person.
I wouldn't marry someone whom I argued with a lot but I would marry someone who I've had plenty of spirited discussions with. In fact, if we've not had any spirited discussions that's not a good sign. I don't want someone who will be bowled over. I want someone with spunk and feistyness.
(edited to correct spelling error that twinkly so graciously and subtly pointed out)
< Message edited by John_O -- 12/14/2008 6:58:54 PM >
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 6:51:29 PM
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twinkly
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You want spunk and "feistyness" John O? you sure about that?
Would you like my number??? I could give you a few spirited conversations! Muahahahaha!
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 6:56:47 PM
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John_O
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You want spunk and "feistyness" John O? you sure about that?
Would you like my number??? I could give you a few spirited conversations! Muahahahaha!
M was both feisty and full of spunk. It's how women are supposed to be. But while that does sound very tempting, if I said yes people would accuse me of flirting and I do not flirt. I have a reputation to uphold after all.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 7:23:13 PM
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No on both. . . 'nuf said.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 7:34:37 PM
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Prairiehiker
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Yes, I would marry someone I enjoy some spirited bantering often. If that's missing, I'll get bored very quickly. But if he has some very redeeming qualities, , I can overlook it. If he likes respectful discussions instead of arguments, yeah, I can marry him.
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Search me, Oh God, and know my heart
Try me, and know my anxieties;
And see if there is any wicked way in me, and
Lead me in the way everlasting Psalm 139:22-24
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 7:42:07 PM
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JoeyWest
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i have to agree with you guys. always say is no cosby family but ones that have problems work them out. hopefully.
keep posting just wanted to add my post
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 8:31:46 PM
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Nope.
... Get a puppy if you just want company. They're easier to take care of.
Nope for me also...
I like the puppy suggestion!
Arguing isn't my favorite hobby - but I love to discuss things and think its' perfectly ok to agree to disagree, so long as there's a balance of non-argumentative conversation
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