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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 9:24:29 PM
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song
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would you marry someone whom you argued lots with?
No.
Besides, I'm always right. 
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 9:37:43 PM
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skreyola
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THis is a gift for OneJohn. He's been asking for a new thread. So here goes.
Would you marry a person who is not interested in sex if everything else about him or her is perfect by your standard?
No. If we're not going to have physical intimacy, there's no point in getting married. Nor can the marriage be consummated, so we wouldn't actually be married, and it would be unseemly for us to live under the same roof.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 9:42:02 PM
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skreyola
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ORIGINAL: JoeyWest
would you marry someone whom you argued lots with?
As long as she argues fairly and doesn't resort to cheap shots and ad hominem, ABSOLUTELY! Someone who'll argue with me sounds interesting and exciting.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 10:08:02 PM
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Mrs.Benelchi
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Would you marry a person who is not interested in sex if everything else about him or her is perfect by your standard?
Nope.
There is actually a man interested in me who has expressed that and so he will forever stay on the "just friends" list. 
Like some other posters I honestly can't see why you'd bother "get married" anyways. Get a puppy if you just want company. They're easier to take care of.
Song;
I beg to differ. If you must get a puppy, get a stuffed one. Puppies, despite the hype that says differently, cannot always be housetrained. I'm given to understand that this is true of spouses as well, but be that as it may, I got a puppy. Many thousands of dollars in floor coverings later, I have realized three things. That 1) puppies grow up, but they don't always mature. They will, however, always manure: and 2) quite often the companionship is not always worth it and 3) there is an amazing selection of high-priced floor coverings on the market.
Cats are similar.
If you must get a live pet for companionship, get a fish.
I suggest rather that you become a collector of stuffed animals. It WILL be cheaper and less annoying in the long run. Carefully investing could eventually bring IN returns on collectibles rather than costing MORE and then ending up by actually celebrating a greasy spot on the road.
I got enough high-maintenance critters in my life now...
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Ugh, I am in this situation right now. My favorite show right now is "It's me or the dog"
"With the milk comes the manure." That was a saying my Grammie said all the time(my dad grew up on a farm). Of Course for me the milk would be the s*x among other things.  I'm sure I will bring my share of manure into a relationship, parakeet sized.  What? I don't have an OH. 
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 10:09:28 PM
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OneJohn410
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(Sniffle. Wipe eyes.)
Oh Prairiehiker, this is so beautiful! A new thread on singles just for me asking for it. I really didn't think anyone would take me up on my comment. Thank you, thank you, thank you! I'd give you an electric hug, but I know you don't do that kind of thing.
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Would you marry a person who is not interested in sex if everything else about him or her is perfect by your standard?
No. Deal Breaker.
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would you marry someone whom you argued lots with?
No. Not even if she was interested in sex and perfect by my standards in every other way. Arguing leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to the dark side.
I wonder what happened to the deal no deal thread? 
Would you marry someone perfect in every other way, and I mean every other way, only s/he despised the dentist's office and also a lot of dental hygenie practice? (that's as in dragon breath,etc.). Also, since this thread is for me, let's see if four or five people can answer it before another is added?
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 10:17:42 PM
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Prairiehiker
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One John, that's a "would you date" question! And my answer would be NO way!
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 10:19:14 PM
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Mrs.Benelchi
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would you marry someone whom you argued lots with?
I like a good debate......but not all the time. I would not want that to define our relationship.
True Arguing? I really hate it. I am sure that there will be disagreements, but to argue, with anger and hurtful things said......no that does not make for a happy marriage.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 10:28:09 PM
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No sex? Probably not. That is definitely one of the benefits of marriage. If something happened afterwards - like he was injured - that would be a different story. I agree with everyone else here - we could stay friends or get puppies ... or maybe fish.
Lots of arguments? Probably not. I love harmony and hate to argue. Playing with words and ideas - matching wits sometimes - yes. But arguments - no - it would wear me out and then I wouldn't want to be around him.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 10:41:42 PM
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JoeyWest
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sex is a no no. well after marriage then yes. ((( I called my daughter over to make sure she read my words too. i got a rolled eyes))
as for breath, kissing is an intimate part of life and if i can't get within 3 feet of them without a mask on, how can i kiss? so no no no
did i say no?
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/14/2008 11:45:15 PM
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Prairiehiker
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Story of my life. The only women offering me their phone numbers are the ones who don't like me and just want to hurt me
Um....that's definitely not flirting! Nope. no sign of flirting there whatsoever!
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Try me, and know my anxieties;
And see if there is any wicked way in me, and
Lead me in the way everlasting Psalm 139:22-24
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/15/2008 12:59:11 AM
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John_O
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Story of my life. The only women offering me their phone numbers are the ones who don't like me and just want to hurt me
Um....that's definitely not flirting! Nope. no sign of flirting there whatsoever!
I'm glad you recognize it as not flirting. Because after all, I don't flirt
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/15/2008 2:12:35 AM
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Prairiehiker,
You exclaimed at me, I don't know why, and looking at this post again, you've described the perfect person in every way to me. So I don't see any negatives, and I would ask for some clarification.
If she was as described below, then YES, I would most definitely consider marrying her. Sex before marriage is nothing I'm interested in either. I repeat, having no interest in having sex during the whole time she and I are friends and then dating. How long is the person's 'no' thinking?
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ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker
THis is a gift for OneJohn. He's been asking for a new thread. So here goes.
Would you marry a person who is not interested in sex if everything else about him or her is perfect by your standard?
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/15/2008 2:17:39 AM
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OneOfHisJewels
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I think prairie hiker meant, that of course, before marriage, we abstain..but she was asking if we would marry someone who would want celibacy AFTER the marriage..that's how I took the question and how I answered it.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/15/2008 7:04:52 AM
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Prairiehiker
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Prairiehiker,
You exclaimed at me, I don't know why, and looking at this post again, you've described the perfect person in every way to me. So I don't see any negatives, and I would ask for some clarification.
Huh? What did I say?
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Search me, Oh God, and know my heart
Try me, and know my anxieties;
And see if there is any wicked way in me, and
Lead me in the way everlasting Psalm 139:22-24
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/15/2008 7:27:19 AM
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broyce1981
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I've got to go with 'no way' on both questions. Spending the rest of my life in bed lying next to the woman I love and not being able to touch her seems like a cruel existence.
I'm somebody who doesn't like confrontation at all, so the second one is definitely a 'no' for me. One of the qualities on my 'list' is easy-going. Argumentative and feisty is not for me and will just leave me frustrated more often than not.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/15/2008 7:45:35 AM
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Prairiehiker
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Would you marry someone perfect in every other way, and I mean every other way, only s/he despised the dentist's office and also a lot of dental hygenie practice? (that's as in dragon breath,etc.). Also, since this thread is for me, let's see if four or five people can answer it before another is added?
OneJohn, if you were referring to this question, to which I responded with "this is a would you date" question, that's because a person with a bad case of halitosis is going to get screened out before or after the first date in my book, so I wouldn't worry about considering them as a potential marriage material.
I guess when I posted the thread, though I meant it to be discussed lightheatedly, I meant the thread to get us to discuss things that would make us stop in our tracks if we found out that the person we're dating who is perfect in every way until he/she dropped this one specific thing....ie, sexual incompatibility. Would that difference be big enough to make us think twice about them as a potential marriage partners. That's the original thought anyway.
So, bad breath...I won't even date him.
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Search me, Oh God, and know my heart
Try me, and know my anxieties;
And see if there is any wicked way in me, and
Lead me in the way everlasting Psalm 139:22-24
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/15/2008 8:04:01 AM
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TNBelle
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ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker
Would you marry a person who is not interested in sex if everything else about him or her is perfect by your standard?
No, I wouldn't. Sex is an essential ingredient in marriage. If something happens after being married that makes sex impossible, that would be something difficult to deal with. But to enter a marriage knowing there wasn't going to be sex - no way! Sex in marriage bonds two people on the deepest possible emotional/spiritual levels. Plus, it's a lot of fun!
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ORIGINAL: JoeyWest
would you marry someone whom you argued lots with?
I do not argue, so that would be impossible to begin with. Also, I don't get along well with argumentative people. The fact that I don't argue tends to frustrate them! Now, that's not to say I won't discuss things or attempt to solve issues/problems - but I do this by talking and seeking to understand.
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ORIGINAL: OneJohn410
Would you marry someone perfect in every other way, and I mean every other way, only s/he despised the dentist's office and also a lot of dental hygenie practice? (that's as in dragon breath,etc.).
Nope! I wouldn't be able to get close to him, so why would I date/marry him?
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/15/2008 1:37:52 PM
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benelchi
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ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker
THis is a gift for OneJohn. He's been asking for a new thread. So here goes.
Would you marry a person who is not interested in sex if everything else about him or her is perfect by your standard?
No, I wouldn't because a biblical perspective on sex is that it is a sacred part of marriage and a part of the marriage relationship that we are under obligation to share with our spouse (1 Co. 7:1-5). While I do believe that marriages can survive without sex, it is never an ideal situation and if one spouse is choosing not to engage in a sexual relationship in marriage, it is sin!
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/15/2008 2:04:22 PM
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No, on both counts.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/15/2008 2:08:54 PM
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benelchi
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Sorry...sex is essential and quite frankly dealing with THREE males in my house I'll have to release my tension somehow and I don't think all my boys would appreciate 50 million crocheted blankets.
Extremely important, YES, but essential, NO.
I do believe that their are legitimate reasons for marriage without sex, but they are extreme situations and do not reflect a choice not to have sex; however, these are not situations for which we should choose to begin a marriage. For example, in a marriage where a spouse has been afflicted by Alzheimer, the only way that sex could happen would probably be rape (and that would be criminally wrong!), but there still is a marriage and a commitment that must be honored i.e. "in sickness and in health"
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