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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 10:55:46 AM
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joy2give2u
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Would you marry someone who has an emotional baggage that she hasn't conquered yet? Let's say, someone has an abandonment issue from childhood, would that be a deal breaker? For me the key would be whether they recognized the baggage and will willing to be set free from it or not.
If Christmas is a huge holiday, full of fun traditions, for you would you marry someone who was just not that into Christmas?
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 11:13:31 AM
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Christmas is a huge holiday, full of fun traditions, for you would you marry someone who was just not that into Christmas
Yes, i would. I used to be so into Christmas, but the older I get, I prefer a solemn celebration of Christmas. If it wasn't for my kid, I'd prefer to be alone and really reflect on the meaning of Christ birth during Christmas time, rather than what it has become.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 11:16:40 AM
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Would you marry someone who has an emotional baggage that she hasn't conquered yet? Let's say, someone has an abandonment issue from childhood, would that be a deal breaker? For me the key would be whether they recognized the baggage and will willing to be set free from it or not.
If Christmas is a huge holiday, full of fun traditions, for you would you marry someone who was just not that into Christmas?
I would. I have enough Christmas joy for the two of us. Now if he tried to stifle that joy then we'd have problems.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 11:25:50 AM
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Christmas is a huge holiday, full of fun traditions, for you would you marry someone who was just not that into Christmas
Yes, i would. I used to be so into Christmas, but the older I get, I prefer a solemn celebration of Christmas. If it wasn't for my kid, I'd prefer to be alone and really reflect on the meaning of Christ birth during Christmas time, rather than what it has become.
What about those who believe that celebrating Christmas is "sinful", "pagan", and "anti-Christian"?
** There are a few like that in the "Christmas" thread here on the forums **
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 11:27:35 AM
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Would you marry someone who has an emotional baggage that she hasn't conquered yet? Let's say, someone has an abandonment issue from childhood, would that be a deal breaker?
Maybe. It's not necessarily a deal breaker.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 11:27:47 AM
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Christmas is a huge holiday, full of fun traditions, for you would you marry someone who was just not that into Christmas
Yes, i would. I used to be so into Christmas, but the older I get, I prefer a solemn celebration of Christmas. If it wasn't for my kid, I'd prefer to be alone and really reflect on the meaning of Christ birth during Christmas time, rather than what it has become.
What about those who believe that celebrating Christmas is "sinful", "pagan", and "anti-Christian"?
** There are a few like that in the "Christmas" thread here on the forums **
I would simply smile, wish them a Merry Christmas and get as faaaar away from them as possible. Sorry...we don't agree and that is something I won't budge on.
*shrug*
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 11:28:37 AM
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What about those who believe that celebrating Christmas is "sinful", "pagan", and "anti-Christian
Definitely not someone that would pass the dating stage, let alone considering marrying.
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Lead me in the way everlasting Psalm 139:22-24
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 11:45:34 AM
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Would you marry a Muppet?
Miss Piggy is the only female one I remember. And she'd be constantly beating the tar out of me. So I'd have to say no.
How is that different from the OH?
That is an excellent point.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 11:50:55 AM
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Christmas is a huge holiday, full of fun traditions, for you would you marry someone who was just not that into Christmas
Yes, i would. I used to be so into Christmas, but the older I get, I prefer a solemn celebration of Christmas. If it wasn't for my kid, I'd prefer to be alone and really reflect on the meaning of Christ birth during Christmas time, rather than what it has become.
What about those who believe that celebrating Christmas is "sinful", "pagan", and "anti-Christian"?
** There are a few like that in the "Christmas" thread here on the forums **
I believe that our life should be a celebration of Jesus. A constant witness to those around us of the love and joy that Jesus in us pours out through us. Therefore most of the hyper-religious sorts (You know the type, the "Thou shalt not smile at anything even remotely secular" folks) and I do not get along well at all. I enjoy all of Christmas, the spiritual side and the secular. I've even got 6' tall penguins sledding in my back yard. 
If our religion is preventing people from seeing the love and joy of Christ in us, then we need to change our religion.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 11:55:28 AM
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I would. I have enough Christmas joy for the two of us. Now if he tried to stifle that joy then we'd have problems. I am the same way..........to me Christmas is not about the secular song and dance....................it isn't about Christmas shopping, buying gifts or lights............it is about spending time with my family seeing lights, making presents, wrapping each gift as I pray for the one to whom it goes.........love poured over it...........
Christmas is about traditions which fuse the family together and creates memories which will far out last any gift given........Christmas is about sharing the whys to the children........how the Christmas tree is a reminder God's gift made a way for us to have everlasting life.........the lights remind us we are to shine forth this light to the world..........
I don't think I could marry someone who sees the traditions and activities of Christmas as less then a part of the whole story of Christ's birth...........
Each thing I do which is associated with Christmas, is such a part of the meaning of Christmas, because they speak so clearly to me of the true meaning of Christmas.
I was thinking the other day about the Christmas story written in the gospels. All that the story entail........all the characters, actions, and emotions........the story is about a child born and laid in a manager who was sent from God, his very son, to save the world.........to bring joy, peace and love........to bring God's kingdom to earth
But that isn't the only story.........the stories within the story tell as much about who Jesus was and how his coming to earth would impact the world as the narrower story we associate with Christmas............the story of the wise man.......what a powerful testimony to who Christ is and how His very being causes a reaction in all of creation.............the story of Mary visiting Elizabeth.........wow a Christmas story without including what we learn God is doing for us through that story.........
For me it is very important the man I marry not just seem one story line, that of a child being born in a manage, but that he sees the complete story revealed in those things which surround and are a part of the bigger story.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 12:13:22 PM
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I enjoy all of Christmas, the spiritual side and the secular Interesting enough the Christmas story told in the Bible also includes the secular...........isn't it just like God to use secular men, who we would basically call new agers since the wise men were all about reading things in the stars, to help proclaim the birth of His Son..........
Would you marry a man/woman who did not have a close relationship with their family and could not understand why your relationship with your family was so important to you?
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 2:32:10 PM
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Would you marry a man/woman who did not have a close relationship with their family...
Yes, there are sometimes VERY good reasons for this.
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...could not understand why your relationship with your family was so important to you?
Nope! He doesn't have to have the same kind of relationship with his family as I do with mine (his could be much better than mine, in fact!). But I can't see forming a permanent bond with someone who could not or would not recognize that my family and the friends I love are a huge part of my life and they are important to me.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 2:57:50 PM
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Would you marry a man/woman who did not have a close relationship with their family...
Yes, there are sometimes VERY good reasons for this.
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...could not understand why your relationship with your family was so important to you?
Nope! He doesn't have to have the same kind of relationship with his family as I do with mine (his could be much better than mine, in fact!). But I can't see forming a permanent bond with someone who could not or would not recognize that my family and the friends I love are a huge part of my life and they are important to me.
I'm beginning to think we're kindered souls.  I keep agreeing with everything you say...LOL
I actually don't have a good relationship with my family and wouldn't have a problem marrying someone who did.
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When I've shown you that I just don't care
When I'm throwing punches in the air
When I'm broken down and I can't stand
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 4:07:12 PM
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Would you marry someone who has an emotional baggage that she hasn't conquered yet? Let's say, someone has an abandonment issue from childhood, would that be a deal breaker?
No
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 4:09:25 PM
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Would you marry someone who has an emotional baggage that she hasn't conquered yet? Let's say, someone has an abandonment issue from childhood, would that be a deal breaker? For me the key would be whether they recognized the baggage and will willing to be set free from it or not.
If Christmas is a huge holiday, full of fun traditions, for you would you marry someone who was just not that into Christmas?
Not a chance
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 4:11:04 PM
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Christmas is a huge holiday, full of fun traditions, for you would you marry someone who was just not that into Christmas
Yes, i would. I used to be so into Christmas, but the older I get, I prefer a solemn celebration of Christmas. If it wasn't for my kid, I'd prefer to be alone and really reflect on the meaning of Christ birth during Christmas time, rather than what it has become.
What about those who believe that celebrating Christmas is "sinful", "pagan", and "anti-Christian"?
** There are a few like that in the "Christmas" thread here on the forums **
No because they wouldn't be a Christian and I wouldn't even date an unbeliever.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 4:16:28 PM
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Christmas is a huge holiday, full of fun traditions, for you would you marry someone who was just not that into Christmas
Yes, i would. I used to be so into Christmas, but the older I get, I prefer a solemn celebration of Christmas. If it wasn't for my kid, I'd prefer to be alone and really reflect on the meaning of Christ birth during Christmas time, rather than what it has become.
I'm curious why you would want to " solemnly " celebrate the single greatest birthday in the history of the world?
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 6:35:07 PM
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Christmas is a huge holiday, full of fun traditions, for you would you marry someone who was just not that into Christmas
Yes, i would. I used to be so into Christmas, but the older I get, I prefer a solemn celebration of Christmas. If it wasn't for my kid, I'd prefer to be alone and really reflect on the meaning of Christ birth during Christmas time, rather than what it has become.
I'm curious why you would want to " solemnly " celebrate the single greatest birthday in the history of the world?
Isn't the question about whether one celebrates Christmas or not, not how one chooses to celebrate. For me, the word "solemn" has an awe inspiring meaning. It's more sublime, more meaningful. Though I wouldn't judge how one celebrates, I think as soon as they recognize that the birth of Christ is the single greatest event to ever happen in the world, I wouldn't care how they celebrate.
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Search me, Oh God, and know my heart
Try me, and know my anxieties;
And see if there is any wicked way in me, and
Lead me in the way everlasting Psalm 139:22-24
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 6:37:36 PM
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Would you marry a spy?
A mysterious man... absolutely.
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Could you marry someone who was not big on having pets?
I probably could. Pets haven't been a huge part of my life so I could deal with it even though I enjoy having a cat or a dog.
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Would you marry a man/woman who is in church every time the church door opens, serves in various ministries, but when it's just the two of you, s/he won't engage you in any discussion about his faith, won't pray with you, won't study the bible with you?
Spiritual growth is important, and it involves the spiritual disciplines. Our relationship with God is built in our quiet time at home and it pours out into our involvement at church. So no, I prefer someone who is growing in his faith.
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Would you marry a magician?
Hmmm, they tend to be rather eccentric which would clash with my personality, so probably not.
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Would you marry someone who has an emotional baggage that she hasn't conquered yet? Let's say, someone has an abandonment issue from childhood, would that be a deal breaker?
I have a great deal of compassion for hurting people, but if he hasn't conquered it, he probably isn't ready for marriage. I'd have no problem with him wanting to work on his issues while dating, though.
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If Christmas is a huge holiday, full of fun traditions, for you would you marry someone who was just not that into Christmas?
I'm not into commercialism, but I do like to be around family and friends during the holidays. If he wants to be a bah humbug, I'm pretty sure I could get him to come around eventually to a little celebration.
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What about those who believe that celebrating Christmas is "sinful", "pagan", and "anti-Christian"?
He'd probably have some harsh things to say about me if he believes this, so it probably wouldn't be a dating relationship that would last long.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 6:37:49 PM
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Would you marry someone who has an emotional baggage that she hasn't conquered yet? Let's say, someone has an abandonment issue from childhood, would that be a deal breaker?
This is not a deal breaker for me because I recognize that everyone has some sort of baggage whether they care to admit it or not. I do, however, would consider if they are trying to heal or manage their issues and allowing God to heal them.
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Search me, Oh God, and know my heart
Try me, and know my anxieties;
And see if there is any wicked way in me, and
Lead me in the way everlasting Psalm 139:22-24
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 6:40:00 PM
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Would you marry someone who strongly believe that s/he's got life all figured out, has the answer for everything, and believes that s/he's God's gift to women/men.
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Search me, Oh God, and know my heart
Try me, and know my anxieties;
And see if there is any wicked way in me, and
Lead me in the way everlasting Psalm 139:22-24
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 6:47:09 PM
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Would you marry someone who strongly believe that s/he's got life all figured out, has the answer for everything, and believes that s/he's God's gift to women/men.
Since I do have all the answers and have life figured out, as long as she agrees with me about everything I'll know she does too.
OK, just kidding. It's an attitude that I can tolerate in small doses, just not for the rest of my life!
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 6:58:05 PM
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Would you marry someone who strongly believe that s/he's got life all figured out, has the answer for everything, and believes that s/he's God's gift to women/men.
I've met a few people who fit the first two criteria who aren't arrogant, so that can be attractive. Now, the third item indicates arrogance and that's highly unattractive to me. If they want to argue and debate and insist they are always right, to the point of damaging relationships in the process, then no deal. But if they can be mature, state their opinion firmly while maintaining relationships, that's very attractive.
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RE: The "would you marry thread......." - 12/19/2008 7:12:06 PM
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Would you marry one of the Wiggles?
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