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Left ring finger ... what does your's look like?
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| Bare - so people know I'm single |
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| Bare - because I don't wear any rings |
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| True Love Waits or similar type ring |
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| Just a ring - because it fits there and is pretty |
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| A wedding/engagement style ring - so people think I'm not available |
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| Bare sometimes, wedding/engagement style ring sometimes |
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| The One Ring - so I can be invisible (sorry - had to) |
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| Other? (Please explain ... a rubber band to remind of ...?) |
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Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 12:41:09 PM
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not4saken
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This thought was started by the what not to do thread ... and I was curious.
Recently at a hotel bar while waiting with a friend before we went to a birthday party, she said I need a ring to wear on my left ring finger so people will think I'm married.
I personally thought this seemed like a bit of a misleading practice. But then one day at work I realized I was wearing my Aggie (college) ring on that finger. Huh!
So I was curious what others do.
After telling us what your finger looks like, please explain why :) If you don't mind. And when - if you wear a fake wedding ring sometimes but not others - what are the occasions?
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 12:59:05 PM
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As everyone here knows I wear a "True Love Waits" ring or otherwise known as a "purity" ring. I don't really care if guys think I am taken or not, and the myth that a nice guy will not talk to you if you have a ring on your left ring finger so got busted Monday night...at our revival at church, there were several other churches that came also, and there was a really nice, sweet, and cute youth worker who talked to me for a while and since he was curious as to if I was promised/engaged/married, he just simply asked "Would that be a purity ring on your hand, or are you seeing someone?" To which I was able to tell him yes, it was my purity ring! This little incident just proved to me that if a guy is the one God has for me, God will make a way for us to get together, even though I wear a purity ring!
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 1:09:22 PM
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I need to find out more about the purity rings ... I think I'd like to do something like that.
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 1:56:49 PM
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the myth that a nice guy will not talk to you if you have a ring on your left ring finger so got busted Monday night...at our revival at church, there were several other churches that came also, and there was a really nice, sweet, and cute youth worker who talked to me for a while and since he was curious as to if I was promised/engaged/married, he just simply asked "Would that be a purity ring on your hand, or are you seeing someone?" To which I was able to tell him yes, it was my purity ring! This little incident just proved to me that if a guy is the one God has for me, God will make a way for us to get together, even though I wear a purity ring!
Jesuschick you have to remember you are much younger then many of us posting here. In your generation the purity ring is much more common so gentlemen your age and a little older would probably not assume a ring on your left ring finger was an engagement or marriage ring. Wearing a ring as a symbol of your commitment to stay pure before the Lord was not even thought up when I was your age.
In my generation and older the only reason you would wear a ring on your left ring finger was either because you were engaged, married, or in a serious relationship with someone.
Can you see why older men may still see it that way?
Hey Reba what a really neat tradition........I love the heart being open for the taking or already given.........do you wear a claddagh ring?
I admit I do have a beautiful ring I will on occasion wear on my left ring finger.......It it is a single pearl the Lord gave to me........I wear it usually at home spending time with the Lord when I want to remember His promise that someday I will wear, on that finger, a symbol of my promise to and from my husband
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 2:05:10 PM
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I put bare sometimes, other times an engagement type ring. I do so because the office I work in often gets "passersby" who want to "flirt" with me. I am busy and do not have time for such things. I wear an engagement style ring to work to dissuade anyone from preoccupying my time with nonsense. Anyone else who stops by this office to talk to me on a regular basis knows my status and knows "why" I wear said ring....
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 2:22:01 PM
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jesuschick247
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the myth that a nice guy will not talk to you if you have a ring on your left ring finger so got busted Monday night...at our revival at church, there were several other churches that came also, and there was a really nice, sweet, and cute youth worker who talked to me for a while and since he was curious as to if I was promised/engaged/married, he just simply asked "Would that be a purity ring on your hand, or are you seeing someone?" To which I was able to tell him yes, it was my purity ring! This little incident just proved to me that if a guy is the one God has for me, God will make a way for us to get together, even though I wear a purity ring!
Jesuschick you have to remember you are much younger then many of us posting here. In your generation the purity ring is much more common so gentlemen your age and a little older would probably not assume a ring on your left ring finger was an engagement or marriage ring. Wearing a ring as a symbol of your commitment to stay pure before the Lord was not even thought up when I was your age.
In my generation and older the only reason you would wear a ring on your left ring finger was either because you were engaged, married, or in a serious relationship with someone.
Can you see why older men may still see it that way?
As always Joy, I totally agree with you! It might not be practical for you more mature ladies (and I mean that with the upmost respect) to wear one, and I totally understand that. Just explaining why I personally wear one...didn't mean to come across as rude if I did!
I personally find it as kind of repellent for guys coming up wherever and talking to me...something I don't want, especially if I happen to be by myself. I am friendly, but I don't want to draw the wrong kind of attention either.
But, I do see where you are going with your answer! 
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 2:51:14 PM
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Again, the questions remain:
Would the purity ring on your right finger deny the symbolism or lessen the meaning of it?
I don't think so - so why not wear it on your right ring finger and avoid the confusion?
-reba.
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 2:57:55 PM
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I don't wear jewelry except on rare occasions... and then its just a necklace and on even more rare occasions I will wear earrings also. I have no rings or bracelets of any kind in my possession except for my class ring which I haven't worn for 15 years.
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 3:01:34 PM
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In my generation and older the only reason you would wear a ring on your left ring finger was either because you were engaged, married, or in a serious relationship with someone.
Can you see why older men may still see it that way?
That's indeed how this man sees it, and that's one of the first things I check if I find a lady of my age who stirs my interest. Even then, it's not a foolproof system. Some married or engaged women don't wear rings. Also, if someone is Orthodox or married to someone who is, they often wear their wedding ring on their right hand.
"Purity rings" worn on the left index finger could confuse men who were brought up the way I was, although I haven't heard of too many women my age who wear "purity rings."
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 3:02:36 PM
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ORIGINAL: rebakahblam
Again, the questions remain:
Would the purity ring on your right finger deny the symbolism or lessen the meaning of it?
I don't think so - so why not wear it on your right ring finger and avoid the confusion?
-reba.
I know it seems like it shouldn't matter, and maybe it wouldn't to someone else, but I did do that in High School out of being tired of being called the "Weird girl who wears that ring" and the guys saying it was really strange, just stuff like that. So I switched hands, no more questions, no more problems, right? Wrong, when I didn't have to be accountable for it, when I didn't have to stand up for what I knew was right, it was so much easier to just blend in with everyone else.
I don't know why, but I want to wear the ring on my left hand, it feels like what I'm supposed to do. God will bring the right guy in time, and I am seeking God and not a guy right now anyways, because I know God will make the rest fall into place. And that guy is going to know what a purity ring is and I pray that maybe he might even be one of the few guys who wears one himself!
I wish I could find Joe White's sermon on this, he explains the importance of wearing it on your left hand better than I do...I'm looking for it!
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 3:35:53 PM
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Well, I personally wear a purity ring and a ring my grandma gave me on my ring finger. (yes, 2 rings on the same finger.) Since I'm only 15, I don't really worry about whether guys think I'm taken or not...because right now I'm not of marrying age. Somedays I think about giving it back to my dad (the purity ring) because I have not been pure...I've thought stupid thoughts, I've broken a commitment with my mind by thinking about things I shouldn't....but then I see that God will take me as I am. He doesn't look at the past things I've done and say, "Oh well, sorry Bekah....you screwed up. You filthy sinner! You're gonna BURN in HELL for doing that!!!!" He says, "I know you walked away from me. I know your battle is a daily one. I still love you. We can start over with a new commitment."
In fact, that's the only love I want now while I'm young. I don't want a guy, they are so distracting and my purpose is to spread the love of Christ. Most girls my age are doing the exact opposite...*sigh* And somedays peer pressure is really hard to deal with, but God is who I want to live for today.
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 3:47:11 PM
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Somedays I think about giving it back to my dad (the purity ring) because I have not been pure...I've thought stupid thoughts, I've broken a commitment with my mind by thinking about things I shouldn't.. This statement speaks more of your purity of heart then any action does. David made many mistakes yet was called by God as a man after his own heart......because though his actions were not always pure it was his acknowledgement of his impure heart and how it broke God's heart that allowed God to move in him in such a way he became a man after God's own heart.......
I am very impressed mainstay nut and hope you continue to wear the ring.......for it suits your heart well.
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 4:11:57 PM
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The fact that my left hand is bare is not a true reflection of my availability or my heart. 
THIS!!!!
My "ring finger" on my left hand is currently bare because I do not typically wear jewelry while at home.
Sometimes, however, that particular finger is adorned with a silver & amethyst ring. In fact, tonight, when I go to a symphony on the last words that Jesus spoke while on the Cross, I will probably wear that ring on "that" finger.
It's a ring to remind me of some promises Our Lord made to me. Like Joy, it's a ring that Our Lord gave me. I wear this ring on my next-to-pinkie finger on my left hand mainly because I want to. LOL It's simply my preference. Sometimes, my fingers shrink down so much that I have to wear the ring on my left-hand middle finger to prevent it from falling off; but normally, I prefer to wear it on my ring finger.
I don't consider it a "fake" wedding ring.
Speaking of that, my wedding ring that I wore when CS was alive . . . that ring was so completely far away from what a "traditional" wedding ring looked like that it's laughable. It's a silver band with a big flower (about 1¼"diameter) in the shape of a daisy. The "petals" surrounding the flower are turquoise stones (there's about 8-10 of them; I don't remember; and the ring is stored away) and the center of the flower is a coral stone (and yes, I'm the one that chose it).
To say that a person wears a fake wedding ring is really illogical; especially given the above example of my wedding ring . . . because it also implies the opposite - that my wedding ring wasn't really my wedding ring because it's not the "traditional" wedding ring. A few people even told me that.
Incidentally . . . I was wearing my amethyst ring on my left hand ring finger on the day that CS and I met. And I wore that ring on the same finger for the entire 5 months before we started dating. AND I wore that ring on the same finger for the next two years until the day of our wedding.
But then, I don't casually date, so it doesn't matter to me whether or not someone who doesn't know me thinks I'm married because I wear a ring on my "ring" finger on my left hand.
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 4:16:48 PM
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ORIGINAL: MainstayNut
Well, I personally wear a purity ring and a ring my grandma gave me on my ring finger. (yes, 2 rings on the same finger.) Since I'm only 15, I don't really worry about whether guys think I'm taken or not...because right now I'm not of marrying age. Somedays I think about giving it back to my dad (the purity ring) because I have not been pure...I've thought stupid thoughts, I've broken a commitment with my mind by thinking about things I shouldn't....but then I see that God will take me as I am. He doesn't look at the past things I've done and say, "Oh well, sorry Bekah....you screwed up. You filthy sinner! You're gonna BURN in HELL for doing that!!!!" He says, "I know you walked away from me. I know your battle is a daily one. I still love you. We can start over with a new commitment."
In fact, that's the only love I want now while I'm young. I don't want a guy, they are so distracting and my purpose is to spread the love of Christ. Most girls my age are doing the exact opposite...*sigh* And somedays peer pressure is really hard to deal with, but God is who I want to live for today.
Wow!!!
MainStay . . . your entire post brought tears to my eyes.
There is much beauty and much wisdom that some adults never experience.
I agree with Joy. Your heart is awesome!
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 5:00:22 PM
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ORIGINAL: MainstayNut
Well, I personally wear a purity ring and a ring my grandma gave me on my ring finger. (yes, 2 rings on the same finger.) Since I'm only 15, I don't really worry about whether guys think I'm taken or not...because right now I'm not of marrying age. Somedays I think about giving it back to my dad (the purity ring) because I have not been pure...I've thought stupid thoughts, I've broken a commitment with my mind by thinking about things I shouldn't....but then I see that God will take me as I am. He doesn't look at the past things I've done and say, "Oh well, sorry Bekah....you screwed up. You filthy sinner! You're gonna BURN in HELL for doing that!!!!" He says, "I know you walked away from me. I know your battle is a daily one. I still love you. We can start over with a new commitment."
In fact, that's the only love I want now while I'm young. I don't want a guy, they are so distracting and my purpose is to spread the love of Christ. Most girls my age are doing the exact opposite...*sigh* And somedays peer pressure is really hard to deal with, but God is who I want to live for today.
"Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven." Mainstay ... that was perfect.
And it is also the reason I wear mine. (Though I also have an anniversary ring my mom gave me that I wear.) I am first and foremost a child of the King and He is big enough to bring me to the one He has planned for me in His time.
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My take: I don't think a woman should wear a ring on her left finger even if it is a purity ring. If I were a man and noticed a lovely lady across the sanctuary and she smiled at me and waved and while waving I noticed a ring on her left finger - I'd wave back, and move on with my life. I wouldn't be close enough to tell whether or not the ring was a purity or engagement ring. If you argue he should come closer to find out - that's playing with fire. A godly man will have matured past the point of trying to get as close to the fire without being burned and will try to stay as far away from the fire as possible.
To be very honest with you, when I am in the sanctuary, I am looking to Him alone ... not for cute guys that might catch my eye. I am there to worship Him, to listen to Him and to be equipped so that I can go out into the world and make disciples. I would never wave to a stranger in the service who caught my eye. And I would not have respect for someone who approached me during this time with my Lord. It is much too special for me to cloud myself with the cares of the world.
The thought that someone might not pursue me because I am wearing my ring does not bother me one bit.
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 6:02:47 PM
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ORIGINAL: WhiteRoseBlessings
To say that a person wears a fake wedding ring is really illogical; especially given the above example of my wedding ring . . . because it also implies the opposite - that my wedding ring wasn't really my wedding ring because it's not the "traditional" wedding ring. A few people even told me that.
The only thing I meant to imply by "fake wedding ring" was that it was intended to signal that one was unavailable. In the case of the friend suggesting I wear one, this is what she meant. Something that looks like a traditional wedding ring.
I think the idea of a non-traditional wedding ring AS a real wedding ring is awesome! I'm all about that, especially given that I work with my hands. My "dream" wedding ring (though in reality it would be anything that he or we put thought into to symbolize "us" together) was one I saw that was a band with a vine engraved around it, and tiny stones intermittently placed along the vine like little flowers.
Though I'm 30, and not "pure" in the sense of being a virgin - I really am considering something to symbolize my commitment to Jesus, and to keeping my heart and body separate for Him, and in the case that He chooses a husband for me ... for that husband. I want to consider it prayerfully - about what finger, what symbol, etc. But I would love having that daily reminder - and perhaps something the occasional friend/random stranger would ask about that could spark a conversation about Jesus.
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 6:41:13 PM
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The only thing I meant to imply by "fake wedding ring" was that it was intended to signal that one was unavailable. In the case of the friend suggesting I wear one, this is what she meant. Yeah, I thought of that while I was in the shower a while ago, thinking about this thread. 
I know some people do wear rings on their fingers so that people will think they're married; it's even been mentioned by some posters here in this thread.
I have no problem with this neither. Everyone has their reasons for why they do something.
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Though I'm 30, and not "pure" in the sense of being a virgin - I really am considering something to symbolize my commitment to Jesus, and to keeping my heart and body separate for Him, and in the case that He chooses a husband for me ... for that husband. I know you said, "in the sense of being a virgin" . . . however, I want to re-emphasize that if you are currently and intentionally abstinent and if your thought-life and actions follow-suit, then yes ma'am, you most certainly ARE pure.
I have a rather ugly past; muddied with sexual abuse and sexual promiscuity . . . but if anyone tells me that I am currently not pure, they're quite sadly mistaken. I most definitely am pure . . . with my thoughts AND my actions. My past has been covered under Our Lord's Saving Blood; I don't take that lightly at all.
I know someone who says he's a virgin. Well, "technically", maybe he is. But, he also participates in pornography and some other impure activities.
Between someone who is a technical virgin but has an atrocious thought life and also participates in sexual activities (such as porn) versus someone who has had at least one and perhaps even multiple partners in his life but is now living a chaste and holy life and who controls his thought life and doesn't participate in any sexual activity, I'd choose the 2nd man over the 1st every single time.
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 6:49:53 PM
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Though I'm 30, and not "pure" in the sense of being a virgin - I really am considering something to symbolize my commitment to Jesus, and to keeping my heart and body separate for Him, and in the case that He chooses a husband for me ... for that husband. I want to consider it prayerfully - about what finger, what symbol, etc. But I would love having that daily reminder - and perhaps something the occasional friend/random stranger would ask about that could spark a conversation about Jesus.
Amanda, a purity ring is not a symbol of your purity in the past, but a symbol of your commitment to be pure from here on out.
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I can agree with this and feel the same - my example was simply a hypothetical. I should have mentioned I meant sometime after the service when most people fellowship with each other before leaving--- The principle could be applied to any number of circumstances, I simply chose to use the church example -it's not like I go to church looking to pick guys up nor do I think men should go to church to simply "pick women up" - but what better place to possibly find a mate?
I understand what you mean. But I also know that God is bigger and does not need my help, and He will do what He will do in His time in my life. Worrying about whether someone knows my "status" is the last thing on my mind regardless of the scenario. I have never waved to a stranger and suspect I never will. I am not interested in having a stranger approach me no matter what he looks like. (Unless I am absolutely certain it is a divine appointment.)
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