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Left ring finger ... what does your's look like?
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| Bare - so people know I'm single |
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| Bare - because I don't wear any rings |
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| True Love Waits or similar type ring |
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| Just a ring - because it fits there and is pretty |
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| A wedding/engagement style ring - so people think I'm not available |
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| Bare sometimes, wedding/engagement style ring sometimes |
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| The One Ring - so I can be invisible (sorry - had to) |
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| Other? (Please explain ... a rubber band to remind of ...?) |
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 8:40:45 PM
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MainstayNut
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Well, I personally wear a purity ring and a ring my grandma gave me on my ring finger. (yes, 2 rings on the same finger.) Since I'm only 15, I don't really worry about whether guys think I'm taken or not...because right now I'm not of marrying age.  Somedays I think about giving it back to my dad (the purity ring) because I have not been pure...I've thought stupid thoughts, I've broken a commitment with my mind by thinking about things I shouldn't....but then I see that God will take me as I am. He doesn't look at the past things I've done and say, "Oh well, sorry Bekah....you screwed up. You filthy sinner! You're gonna BURN in HELL for doing that!!!!" He says, "I know you walked away from me. I know your battle is a daily one. I still love you. We can start over with a new commitment."
In fact, that's the only love I want now while I'm young. I don't want a guy, they are so distracting and my purpose is to spread the love of Christ. Most girls my age are doing the exact opposite...*sigh* And somedays peer pressure is really hard to deal with, but God is who I want to live for today.
Wow!!!
MainStay . . . your entire post brought tears to my eyes.
There is much beauty and much wisdom that some adults never experience.
I agree with Joy. Your heart is awesome!
Awww...thank you. But I really hope that people see Jesus instead of me, because He is the reason I WANT to be pure in the first place. I mean, I know myself - guys distract me really bad. But then I realized that Jesus is who I want to live for now while I'm young....I see all these stories of my friends and their hearts have been broken and twisted apart because they chased after something that wouldn't last. I think that's one of the main reasons I do this....
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 9:47:14 PM
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John_O
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My take: I don't think a woman should wear a ring on her left finger even if it is a purity ring. If I were a man and noticed a lovely lady across the sanctuary and she smiled at me and waved and while waving I noticed a ring on her left finger - I'd wave back, and move on with my life. I wouldn't be close enough to tell whether or not the ring was a purity or engagement ring. If you argue he should come closer to find out - that's playing with fire. A godly man will have matured past the point of trying to get as close to the fire without being burned and will try to stay as far away from the fire as possible.
For those who say, "well he should know me enough to know it's a purity ring - or he should find out whether or not it is one" - this isn't practical or logical. If I see a ring on your finger I'm not going to take the time to double-check because I'm going to take the ring as a symbol of marriage and if I have been told you're married or at least engaged (by the ring) then it's pointless and frankly, ungodly, to try to step on someone else's turf.
Exactly right Reba! Ring on left ring finger equals taken. It would be flirting with adultery to approach or even investigate her.
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 9:57:26 PM
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OneOfHisJewels
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My take: I don't think a woman should wear a ring on her left finger even if it is a purity ring. If I were a man and noticed a lovely lady across the sanctuary and she smiled at me and waved and while waving I noticed a ring on her left finger - I'd wave back, and move on with my life. I wouldn't be close enough to tell whether or not the ring was a purity or engagement ring. If you argue he should come closer to find out - that's playing with fire. A godly man will have matured past the point of trying to get as close to the fire without being burned and will try to stay as far away from the fire as possible.
For those who say, "well he should know me enough to know it's a purity ring - or he should find out whether or not it is one" - this isn't practical or logical. If I see a ring on your finger I'm not going to take the time to double-check because I'm going to take the ring as a symbol of marriage and if I have been told you're married or at least engaged (by the ring) then it's pointless and frankly, ungodly, to try to step on someone else's turf.
Exactly right Reba! Ring on left ring finger equals taken. It would be flirting with adultery to approach or even investigate her.
Yep! I like the concept of purity rings, but the fact that people wear them on their left hand ANNOYS me...when they first came out they didn't..they wore them on the right hand..
A ring or not should mean married (or engaged) or not. period. And I know some men don't wear rings even after marriage..but that is partly because it's men that pursue women..and some men work around machinery. However, I think it would be nice for even "work around machinery" type men to wear rings on Sundays/evenings out.
P.S. I do understand when someone who loses a spouse keeps a wedding ring on for a season..they need the time to grieve, and not be a approached.
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 10:41:43 PM
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John_O
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ORIGINAL: OneOfHisJewels
And I know some men don't wear rings even after marriage..but that is partly because it's men that pursue women..and some men work around machinery. However, I think it would be nice for even "work around machinery" type men to wear rings on Sundays/evenings out.
P.S. I do understand when someone who loses a spouse keeps a wedding ring on for a season..they need the time to grieve, and not be a approached.
I wore my ring when I was married. And I wore it for one year after she went home to be with the Lord. Probably should have wore it a few more months but that's neither here nor there now.
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 10:44:24 PM
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John_O
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Exactly right Reba! Ring on left ring finger equals taken. It would be flirting with adultery to approach or even investigate her.
Frankly I would not wish for a man who had these type of black and white thinking to pursue me. I would be very happy to know I missed out on such a person.
That's fine as long as you realize that no man who respects marriage will approach you.
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A ring or not should mean married (or engaged) or not. period.
Fortunately I live in the United States of America, which means I have the freedom to wear my ring were I wish to wear it. 
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 10:47:08 PM
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Psalms274
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That's fine as long as you realize that no man who respects marriage will approach you.
There are plenty of moral, Godly men who respect the sanctity of marriage that do not think everything is either black or white.
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 10:48:30 PM
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John_O
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ORIGINAL: WhiteRoseBlessings
A man or woman who is wearing a ring on "that" finger may or may not be married. A woman or man who does not wear a ring on "that" finger may or may not be single.
But for the man looking for a woman who may be a fit for him, the odds are very great that any woman wearing a ring is taken. He would be almost committing adultery to approach her.
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Additionally, just because someone isn't married doesn't automatically make them available.
(SharMar, know that Imean this in the kindest way). D'uh! Are you wearing your captain obvious costume?
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They may not be available to anyone; or they may not be available specifically to you; but either way, that's their prerogative. Finger decorations in the form of jewelry (whether in abundance or in lack) is not going to change that fact.[/font]
True. But a ring on the left ring finger in this country traditionally means "taken" and an honorable man will not tread on that.
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 10:51:28 PM
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John_O
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That's fine as long as you realize that no man who respects marriage will approach you.
There are plenty of moral, Godly men who respect the sanctity of marriage that do not think everything is either black or white.
And I don't think a single one of them would be pursuing an apparently married woman.
I, and every man I know who I've discussed this with, when seeing a woman check out her left hand first. IF there's a ring she may as well be dead. She is totally unavailable. Nothing else about her matters as she is unapproachable to me for any reason. (unless I am in the company of my mother-in-law or something. Then I can socially talk to her)
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 10:56:19 PM
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There are plenty of moral, Godly men who respect the sanctity of marriage that do not think everything is either black or white. Most definitely.
That black and white thinking is a form of legalism . . . and that is a very dangerous mindset. There's no way I would ever get involved with someone like that.
The only black-and-white typing thinking that I adhere to revolve around who God is and what He expects of us. Everything else has numerous shades of grey. Everything else.
Exactly! Which is another reason I don't care to get involved with someone just because he thinks I have a pretty face or because I'm not wearing a ring.
He has to know me, I have to know him and if people dated more within these circumstances then the whole "she's wearing a ring so she's dead to me" thought process would be null because people would already know availability.
Just because I don't wear a ring isn't an invitation for every Tom, Dick, and Harry to hit on me. It just means that I didn't feel like wearing rings that day. And just because I do wear a ring doesn't mean that I'm trying to 'hide' my availability...it just happens to match my outfit or the other jewelry I wear.
To be honest, I'm better off without the men who make such quick decisions about me before they know me.
"She's divorced so she can't remarry."
"She had a child in high school so that means she was fornicating."
"She wears a ring so obviously she's unavailable."
Why do I want to be with a man who casts judgments about me before he even meets me?
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 10:58:40 PM
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There are plenty of moral, Godly men who respect the sanctity of marriage that do not think everything is either black or white.
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That black and white thinking is a form of legalism . . . and that is a very dangerous mindset. There's no way I would ever get involved with someone like that.
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Why do I want to be with a man who casts judgments about me before he even meets me?
These are exactly the three thoughts that I had as I was reading this thread. You beat me to it! I also agree with Tink's scenario.
edited to include Tink's comment (third quote)
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 11:03:07 PM
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But then, I don't casually date, so it doesn't matter to me whether or not someone who doesn't know me thinks I'm married because I wear a ring on my "ring" finger on my left hand.[/font]
This is my thought as well- so well stated by SharKat.
I have two rings that I really like and they happen to fit my ring fingers best. I wear my birthstone on my right, and a diamond cross on my left. I used to own a band I wore when travelling- for safety and privacy-, but just wear these all the time now.
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 11:03:11 PM
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That's fine as long as you realize that no man who respects marriage will approach you.
There are plenty of moral, Godly men who respect the sanctity of marriage that do not think everything is either black or white.
And I don't think a single one of them would be pursuing an apparently married woman.
I, and every man I know who I've discussed this with, when seeing a woman check out her left hand first. IF there's a ring she may as well be dead. She is totally unavailable. Nothing else about her matters as she is unapproachable to me for any reason. (unless I am in the company of my mother-in-law or something. Then I can socially talk to her)
I know lots of wonderful Godly men who do not think the way you do. You need to realize that many, many people do not think this way. I know based on many of the posts you make, and many of the arguments that ensue in trying to help you to understand that truth, that this is a probably concept that you have not been able to get your head around yet.
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 11:03:45 PM
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There are plenty of moral, Godly men who respect the sanctity of marriage that do not think everything is either black or white. Most definitely.
That black and white thinking is a form of legalism . . . and that is a very dangerous mindset. There's no way I would ever get involved with someone like that.
There are times when legalism is the safest course. "Thou shalt not commit adultery". "Thou shalt not murder". And I could list bunches of others.
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The only black-and-white typing thinking that I adhere to revolve around who God is and what He expects of us. Everything else has numerous shades of grey. Everything else.
Strongly disagree. There is much, very much in the bible that is black and white. "Thou shalt not steal". (and paraphrasing) Thou shalt not commit homosexual behavior.
We can get all wishy-washy or we can do what God tells us to do.
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 11:05:28 PM
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I'd like to add my opinion that I hope to never get to the point that I only look at men as potential husbands. I'd like to think that I'll always look to them first as my brothers in Christ (if they're saved) or as men in need of hearing the gospel (if they aren't saved). That comes first, to me, before assessing them for potential husband status.
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RE: Left ring finger ... what does your's look like? - 4/8/2009 11:05:33 PM
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John_O
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I know lots of wonderful Godly men who do not think the way you do. You need to realize that many, many people do not think this way.
Maybe it's a big city thing. I know of no Godly man here (in my locality) who will approach a woman wearing a ring. A ring means she's married.
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