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RE: Mrs Ed's blog - 7/4/2005 10:23:38 PM
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Ed and I had our plans all made, about two weeks ago: his son Ben was going to move into a garage apartment, on the premises of the place where Ed and I would live. This would give Ben his independence, and also give us enough room so that we wouldn't be as crowded as we would be with four people in one small place. Ed's landlord had come up with the plan, when he heard that the four of us might move out.
A few days ago, he got a notice from the zoning board that the garage apartment wouldn't be permitted. This was a disappointment, but we were philsophical... decided to make the best of it, and Kyi and Ben would have to share a room. The boys do love each other, and we would make it work til Ben could find another place.
Then the landlord had a problem with the college kids who were renting the big house next door to where Ed lives. They trashed the place, and left without paying the rent. The landlord cleaned out the house (Ed and Ben picked up two new fans, some lights and a camcorder that would have been thrown out!) and he offered the house to us! This would give us a four-bedroom house (so that we could have a spare room) and plenty of space for both Ben and Kyi to have their own room. The rent is equal to what we would have to pay for Ben and us to have separate places.... my excitement comes from having a HOUSE... of our own, and Ben would be able to stay with us. Ed and I were talking about what to do with the "spare room" ..offer it as a ministry to people who temporarily need a place to stay; offer it to girls from the pregnancy center.... Ed was talking about "Fresh Air kids" who sometimes need a place to stay, etc. I am excited, and I told Ed I will see the place this weekend and make up my mind. Just the thought of it made me want to say yes, but I don't want to commit myself til I see it.
It makes me (again) so grateful to God... He really comes through for us! (As always)
So much to do before Saturday. I won't be able to move all my things, but will be moving much of them.
God bless you all!
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RE: Mrs Ed's blog - 7/7/2005 7:18:25 AM
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The plan for the house doesn't seem as though it will work out.  Although Ben loves his dad, and wouldn't mind living with us, he really wants to be on his own. Ben is 30, and feels like he should be independent. He has been concerned about whether he could make it on his own, but really feels like he will never "be a man" as long as he lives with his parents. So... we are probably going to stay in the apartment. It will be OK; Kyi will have his own room, and it is just big enough for us.
Yesterday was a very emotional day, for me. I don't really understand it; I have looked forward to leaving the place where I am working, and moving out to Pennsylvania to be with Ed. This job has driven me crazy, in lots of ways, and I thought I would feel nothing but joy when the time came to leave. Yesterday, when I reviewed all the duties of my job, with the woman who will replace me, and handed her the notebook where we record our tasks for the day, I felt such a sense of loss! I was "giving away my job"... and it made me sad. There was joking, too, because I have a very well-known habit of sitting in a certain chair at the nurses' station, and NOBODY else usually sits in that chair, because I am very territorial about my "space" at the desk. But, yesterday, in order to do "my job" the new woman had to sit there. And it was so weird......
One of my patients, a little German lady, overheard someone say that I was leaving. She got very upset. She said, in her thick German accent: "No. You vill not leaf me. You are mein nurse, foreffer!" Oh, my GOSH... I cried!!!!!
I keep telling myself that this is OK; this is what I wanted; I will soon be with Ed, but the emotions are too mixed up. I love some of these people, and it took leaving here for me to realize just how much.
Christina called me from camp. She misses me, too, but really loves camp. They do the weirdest things there! On the Fourth of July, instead of fireworks, they took an old, broken-down piano down to the lake and burned it! (Yes, the director knew. It was HIS idea!!!) What an amazing thing to do!! Christina and I are going to get together, somewhere in our new town, on Saturday evening for some time together. She will use her Saturday off, this week, to move more stuff to her new apartment. I haven't wanted to bother Kyi, while he is with his dad, but I will call tonite, to confirm our meeting on Sunday. I miss him, too.
I have done most of the things that I need to do; to get ready for Saturday. I have gotten the oil changed on my car, and I have done the laundry and packed the things I will take on Saturday. The only other things that need to go in the car are the cat and the fish (with their aquarium) and those will be placed in the car at the last minute.
I am SO excited! Now I have to get through two more days at work (hope they are not as emotional as yesterday) and then I am off to be with Ed! Woooohooo!!!! 
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RE: Mrs Ed's blog - 7/8/2005 6:53:04 AM
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Today is my last day at this job. I don't know how I am going to do it... but of course, I will, with God's help. I don't want to say goodbye, and I feel like the nice person who is taking my job doesn't really understand it well enough. Oh well, last August when I started I didn't really know my job, either. She is a smart nurse, and she will learn.
Yesterday was more of the "giving away". Each week, me and the Assistant Director looked at every person who has wounds; to be sure we are doing the best thing for the patient. I got to really dread these times, because the Asst Director and I have very different personalities, and tended to clash over our duties. But, yesterday, when the new nurse got up to go with the Asst Director, instead of me, I wanted to say "Wait! That's my job!". And then when she went into the weekly team meeting (which I also usually dislike so much) I also thought "hey! How can they have a rehab meeting without ME??"
Several of the doctors that I work with, on a regular basis, came in for their rounds yesterday, and I said goodbye to them. Wow... I just didn't realize the bonds I had formed with so many people. Today is gonna be so hard; saying goodbye to the group of aides and nurses.
I think they may be planning a party for me. I think this because that is what they do for everyone who leaves! (They really enjoy parties, and just about any excuse will do. They had one when a girl got a new cat!) But I hate parties, and I REALLY hate being the center of attention. I will cry my head off if they say nice or sentimental things to me. I am already crying, just thinking of it. Oh, man... I am gonna be a basket case today.  
On the other hand, Ed is getting so excited about me going there tomorrow. (Yes, I move in with my dearest hubby, tomorrow!!!) He and Ben have been cleaning the house all week, and moving out unwanted junk so that I can have some room. We aren't moving furniture til the 23rd but I still need to bring my clothes and toiletries, and medications. Not to mention the kitty and the fish.
I do want to be with Ed, and I do look forward to it. I just have to get through today, first. I have promised myself dinner at Red Lobster, and maybe a haircut to cheer me up after work today. I am already crying again, just thinking about leaving my friends and patients. Especially two of the nurses; Jennifer, who I have gotten really close to, and Doris, who goes to "my" church, and who helped me to get this job.
Well... it's almost time! Better get dressed. God bless you all!
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RE: Mrs Ed's blog - 7/8/2005 6:30:44 PM
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Well, I got through my last day (with many tears) and they did have a nice party for me. One of the girls brought a cake, and they gave me an envelope with money in it. I haven't opened it yet. My friend Nancy gave me a special gift, of candles. I had a very emotional and busy day. I am glad but still sad to be done with it.
On the other hand, my plans have completely changed for next week. Instead of staying with Ed til Tuesday and then coming back here to take four leisurely days for packing, I am going to be staying up til whenever, packing Kyi's toys for the move, (the hardest part, in my opinion!) tonite! That's because, when Christina went to the staff meeting at her camp this morning, the Director said, "We have a very big problem. The nurse for next week's session has just quit. Does anyone know a nurse who has next week off?" And Christina said "my mom does." So the Director called me, and right away I thought "Oh, how cool!" But... I have packing to do, and some other things that I must do... so I asked Ed. And he said, "you've got to go. It's for God" He said he will be sad to give up a few days with me, but it won't be any different than what we have been doing, for the past year. (Ed's disability would make it too difficult for him to get around the camp, so he can't go.) So... I called the Director back, and after finding out that next week will be for kids of Kyi's age group, I said YES. So... instead of packing, I will be spending a lovely week at a Christian camp, and so will Kyi. Woohoo!
So... I better get myself going if I want to finish packing up Kyi's room by tonite. If I can do that, I will know I have a chance to finish on time.
God bless you all
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RE: Mrs Ed's blog - 7/16/2005 6:50:52 PM
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I am back from camp, and very glad that I only signed on for one week. That is a TOUGH job, especially since it is a volunteer position. But the setting is lovely, and I got to be a blessing to 153 little kids, including my own Kyi. We had only two emergencies (neither of them were life-threatening) and LOTS of bug bites and blisters. Of course, every asthmatic in the camp had to use their inhaler or nebulizer after the bonfire last nite. And sitting every night, after I closed up the infirmary, alone in the quiet with the stars and hearing the bullfrogs, I got to call Ed and we could pretend we were together. 
But, tomorrow we actually WILL be... if only for a few hours! I will get back to my new "home" about 5pm tomorrow, and then spend a few hours with him before he goes to work tomorrow at 9pm. He will be home at 7:15 am, just long enough to say hi and give me a hug before I rush off to my first day at my new job!
And then I won't see him again til 7:15 the NEXT morning, since he goes to work on Monday at 5pm til 7am.  Tuesday we'll have the evening together, and then he will be off on Wednesday, til the following Tuesday. Next Saturday the moving truck will go to the NJ place and we will be done there forever, Lord willing! 
I feel very blessed, but tired. I have alot of email, and alot of threads to catch up with so let me get to that.
God bless you all
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RE: Mrs Ed's blog - 7/18/2005 7:45:25 PM
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I really enjoyed my first day. Most "first day" orientations at hospitals are pretty boring but most people who spoke managed to make the "same old subjects" interesting. We had a couple of team-building exercises, (one where you were stranded in an isolated section of Canada after a plane crash, with no immediate prospects for rescue, and we had agree, as a team, on how to rank 15 items in their order of importance, for survival. It was really fun).
I spent lunch talking to another new resident to my area, who had come all the way from Arizona, to live with her sister, after a divorce. I also enjoyed the lovely conference center ( a different location from the hospital). It has a beautiful fountain on the first floor, and a player piano in the lobby. We stood on the first floor, and looked down over the fountain... a few of us got crazy and threw coins in the fountain (from up on the third floor!)
It is hard to say how I will like this, as I haven't really been to the floor and worked with the patients, yet. I will do that on Wednesday. Tonight, I spent an hour rearranging my uniforms on hangers. Ed had tried to be nice, and match them up to save me time, but he didn't match them the way that I would have. So I redid it.
One of the weird things about moving here has been that the apartment is already set up, and nothing is in the place where I would have put it! I can't find anything, especially in the kitchen, and I feel weird putting my girlie "bathroom" things into a bathtub full of men's cologne, soap and other male products. I know I will get used to it, but in the meantime it still feels as though I am visiting.
Ed and I got a pleasant surprise, when he suddenly got the evening off and we got to spend a few hours together when I first got home; rather than not seeing each other til tomorrow morning.
Well, that's all for now. I will go for my second day of general orientation tomorrow. And I will get more used to driving around the area. God is good... I am so glad this beautiful area is my home, now....
God bless you all!
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RE: Mrs Ed's blog - 7/19/2005 10:09:04 PM
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Today was alot more information... almost sensory overload at a few points. All of us had to take several computer self-learning courses, and most of us became very frustrated with the computers. They kept logging us off in the middle of tests, or timing the tests "out" when we completed them, so that we had to take some of them several times. I feel that I could have completed all of them today; if the computer system were working.
I am also a bit disappointed because instead of going to the nursing floor, as I had been told by my boss, I have to sit through 2 or 3 days of further instructions. Ugh. I was looking forward to meeting my team and my patients, but instead I have more classes.
They try very hard to make them interesting, so I guess I shouldn't complain. We got our IDs today, and my picture caught me in a mischevious grin. I wanted to look caring and professional.... instead, my ID makes me look like I have an evil scheme.
I had a few nice, relaxing hours with Ed tonite, so I am grateful to God. It is nice to spend these "everyday" hours with him, and little by little we will get to know what our life together will be like.
Christina called tonight and we made plans for the moving day, on Saturday. I am NOT looking forward to all the work, but I do want to get everything out of the old place.
God bless you all....
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RE: Mrs Ed's blog - 7/22/2005 6:59:49 AM
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We had another two days of classes and computer training. I am so glad today is the last day (for this week) and that we get to go and work on our floors; on Monday. It will make all the work we do, tomorrow and Sunday (to load and unload the moving truck) wothwhile.
Ben found an apartment so we will be helping him move, too. I am grateful to my church members in NJ, who have promised to load the truck, and the members of the PA church who have said they will help unload it. I am NOT looking forward to taking Christina's stuff up her three flights of stairs!
Christina is upset with me (AGAIN) because she wants me to give her my desktop computer until I can afford to buy her the laptop she needs for college. I do know she needs a computer, and that I promised to buy her one. But I can't afford it right now, and part of the reason for that is her phone calls to French fry, and her insistence on moving to the Pa apartment a month earlier than we had planned! I need the computer that is in the NJ house, because it is better than the one I have now. And that does give us this one that I COULD loan her. But I cannot afford to pay to have this one hooked up to the internet, and I don't intend to do that until she gets a job out here. If she doesn't get a job this semester (she has said she doesn't really want to) I can't afford extras like cable TV, a regular telephone (she has a cell) and the internet. This makes me feel like I am being cruel, but I know I am not. Pray for me to have patience with her; when I told her this, she hung up on me.
God bless you all!
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RE: Mrs Ed's blog - 7/24/2005 8:34:30 PM
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Well, the moving truck made the trip to Pennsylvania, and now all my stuff is here. I have no clue which box has which stuff, and where some of the stuff I want is; but me and my stuff is all here. What a tough two days it was, but the guys from our church made the NJ end go smoothly, and friends and family here in Pa unloaded the stuff here.
But it was HARD work!!! 
I went over to Christina's apartment and helped her unpack, yesterday, too. We still don't see eye to eye about the computer, but at least she isn't yelling at me anymore. She still thinks it isn't fair; that she doesn't have her laptop computer, as I did promise her one for a graduation present. But the reason I cannot afford to keep my promise is because of her running up the phone bill, and because she insisted on moving into her apartment a month before we had agreed that she could! She doesn't see how much her actions are cosing me  , and all she wants is her own way. And, when she finally understands that I really do mean no, she is always able to sweettalk her daddy into getting her the things I have said no to. This frustrates me, but it is the way things are.
Tomorrow I finally get to go to my floor at the hospital, and I am really looking forward to seeing my patients and getting to know the people on my floor. I have all my uniforms clean and pressed and color-coordinated. I am SO looking forward to wearing my colorful uniforms, as the job I used to have required that we wear white. I love my pretty scrubs with all their pretty patterns!  I can't wait!
We are all very tired after moving, and are just sitting around here after dinner, too achy to move. I am so glad I am finally here, in our wonderful home, with my wonderful hubby, son and stepson. 
God bless you all!
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RE: Mrs Ed's blog - 7/25/2005 10:02:51 PM
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Today I finally got to go to my floor, and so far I really like it. I was a bit disappointed at first, because instead of being on the floor and taking care of patients, I was at the desk with the charge nurse. However, I was relieved to hear that once I go on night shift, I will have patient care duties as well as administrative/ charge nurse activities to do. So, I will be working on a patient care assignment on Wednesday and Friday, with another nurse overseeing me while I learn.
It was a hectic day, and alot of times I just watched the nurse who was training me without a clue as to what was going on. But at other times I was able to follow, and even help when they needed an extra hand with a heavy patient. I even helped to translate for one Spanish-speaking patient. I learned enough to see that I will probably enjoy working there, and one of the male nurses on evening shift clued me in that there are several other believers on the floor! Tomorrow he is going to be sure to introduce me to some of them!
Tomorrow I have to take a test; which will allow me to give medications (for now, it will be while another nurse watches me) and I am pretty sure I will pass it, but I am going to study anyway.
Being here, with Ed, is wonderful but it is going to take some getting used to. I suppose I am getting a true picture of reality; of the everyday tasks of marriage and family that will compose my life. For one thing: I wish I had enough energy to do the things that I need to do, so that I can find some of the things I need. I want to unpack all my boxes and bags, but since I know where my necessities are, and we still won't have any room to store our stuff, til next week when Ben moves out, I guess it is best that it stay put, anyway.
Another hard part was finding a new doctor. I have had the same primary doctor for about 20 years, and we developed a friendship. So whoever I chose was going to be a "hard act to follow", but the reality of meeting him, today, for Kyi's monthly visit (about his medications) was weird. This is going to be another thing that will take getting used to.
And it also seems like Ed & I aren't as romantic as we were, when we were living apart. I really miss it! Partly it is because of our schedules being at opposite times of the day, for now. But it is also because the move has tired Ed out; plus he is now watching Kyi for part of the day. (That is enough to tire out Arnold Schwartzenegger!) I know we will catch up with each other, but I guess it is really true that the "honeymoon phase" is over!
But God reminds me daily that I have so many blessings, and that Ed is still one of them. He is kind, and loving, and listens to me whenever I ramble endlessly on about my daily events. He is patient with me and Kyi, and always tells me I am beautiful. I just can't thank the Lord enough for him, and now I just have to ask the Lord to help me through this transition period.
God bless you all!
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RE: Mrs Ed's blog - 7/27/2005 10:23:34 PM
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I spent another day on my new floor, and I think I am beginning to understand the routine. The person I am training with is a male nurse, and at first that was weird for me, because I am somewhat uncomfortable with most men if I don't know them, but he made me feel very comfortable. I also met his wife, who is also a nurse at the hospital and that helped, too.
Today I was able to follow alot more of what was going on, and tomorrow I will still work with my trainer, but I will have at least one patient of "my own". This will give me a chance to do some of the work... and next week they will increase my patient load. I think next week will be my last week on day shift, and I admit that is a relief. Because of the allergy meds I take, I get tired very easily, and I am also not used to standing on my feet for almost 8 straight hours. Today, when I came home, I was so glad to find dear Ed making dinner for us. I ate it and went straight to sleep for a 2 hour nap! I was upset because I had intended to go to VBS at our church, but I just couldn't do it.
Ed and I made plans for a "date" on August 6. It will be the first day we will be able to be together, alone, and with Kyi gone to visit his grandpa. We are going to see a play, and to dinner. We will have the whole weekend to relax together, and I am really looking forward to it. I am also looking forward to when we work the same shift. I often don't see Ed for more than an hour or two in a given day, and I do want to spend more time than that.
Kyi spent the day next door, with Ed's neighbor, and he seemed happy there despite having to get up at 6am. He seems more relaxed here, and less fearful now that he knows the routine. Next week, after Ben moves out, and Kyi is able to arrange his room the way he wants it, it will be easier for him to figure out how things will be for him, here.
That's all for now. I better get some sleep....or at least try! The air conditioner keeps coming on very loud and waking me up!
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RE: Mrs Ed's blog - 7/28/2005 8:48:38 PM
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today was much better. I skipped one of the allergy meds that I normally take, and I was much more alert. I also slept better last night, and so I felt alot better when on the floor.
Today I had two of "my own" patients. The nurse that is training me was right there, and most of the time I was fine. Every once in awhile, when I had to do something that I hadn't yet done, there, I would get a bit nervous, but I really was fine, and the day went really well. I think I may be done with my day shift training; by the end of next week. But we will see.
Christina has been going through some emotional difficulties, which she didn't want to share with me, and ended up quitting her job. This was a major surprise to me, because I really thought she was happy there. But I guess she wasn't, and she quit. She says that she will get a job here, and that she just wanted to be left alone. I had her come over, and made sure she had some food, and we will take it from there. I pray that God will help her through whatever she is going through.
Kyi made friends with a boy who lives next door. They are the same age, and will ride on the school bus together. So, I am glad.... he now has a friend, in his new town!
God bless you all!
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RE: Mrs Ed's blog - 7/30/2005 9:35:11 AM
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Thank God it is the weekend, and I can relax (well, sort of) ! Ed has tonight and tomorrow night off, and we are getting a "real bed" today! (We did not have a double bed, and have been sleeping on an air bed, which wasn't that comfortable) This weekend we will also be doing alot of moving stuff around, as we get the apartment into a better organization. Ben has taken alot of his stuff to his new place, so I can begin to arrange things in the way I want them. This is a lot of work, but soon we will have the place the way we want it to be.
Today I am going to be a tourist, in my new area. There is a visitor center about 1/2 hour from where we live. I am going to go there; get a bunch of brochures, and let the kids pick where we go. The only limits I am placing is that no place we go can have an entrance fee that is more than $5. One place I are looking forward to is a place where they have a model of the Biblcal tabernacle. The kids want to see this place where they sell jokes and funny stuff, as well as homemade candy. Both places sound like fun, and we will probably hit a few other places on the way.
I am also going to get a library card, here, and that will really make me feel like I live here. I read a few books each week, no matter how busy I am, so the library is pretty necessary to my sanity.
Tomorrow we have to get up early, and catch a bus to go to a town that is about two hours from here. We are going to cheer for our Special Olympics roller skating team; as they compete in an invitational meet. Ed & Ben are part of the coaching staff, and Kyi and I will be there for emotional support. It is always a fun day, at Special Olympics.
Yesterday, Christina came over for dinner, and then we took Kyi to the playground. We got a chance to talk, and I am glad she is here right now. She has been going through some difficult emotional times, and just couldn't handle being away from the family, even though she really enjoyed most things about being in camp. She has applied for a few jobs, and I hope she will get one soon.... and NOT just because we don't have any money to support her! Please say a prayer for her. I really think she needs to talk to a trained counselor, but she doesn't want to. Please pray that God will work in her heart; whether or not she finds someone to talk to. For now, I will be there when she wants to talk.
I am VERY glad to be done with the classroom part of our orientation. I am very much looking forward to being back on the floor on Monday, and hope I can finish the day shift part of my orientation by the end of next week. I will ask for 3 patients on Monday; by Wednesday I want to take a full patient load, if they will let me. My trainer says I am doing well, and I know the best way for me to learn is to do things.
God bless you all!
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RE: Mrs Ed's blog - 8/8/2005 9:39:29 PM
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Wow! Last week went so quickly! I am really enjoying my learning time at this hospital. It is a very different experience than any other place I have worked. I am getting used to the routine, and am up to 5 patients. I will remain on day shift for the rest of this week, then I will change to night shift next week
Kyi is in Cape Cod with his grandpas, and we are alone. That will be great, next week, when we are on the same shift!
Christina is doing OK, except that she doesn't yet have a job. She came along with us, to see some of the tourist sites around here. It was fun! We went to a pretzel factory, and made some pretzels!
I have to admit that living with Ed is proving to be a series of lessons for both of us in compromise and patience. Both of us have been alone, and in charge of our own lives for awhile. It is very hard to share decisions with another adult; let alone to have to have someone else as the "head of the household". I am not great at keeping my checkbook, so I gladly gave that responsibility to Ed. Yet, not KNOWING my balance from day to day, and not even having checks with me is driving me crazy!
Both of us are strong-willed and stubborn, and we each are SURE we know "the way" to do anything. So we often argue, and it is scary. I knew, of course, that couples in love sometimes argue, but this is a dimension which hadn't previously been experienced by us.
God will get us through it!
Ben moved into his own apartment, and that is going well so far. We rearranged the furniture in the living room, and put up storage shelves in the kitchen. The apartment is starting to look really nice!
God bless you all!
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RE: Mrs Ed's blog - 8/9/2005 6:27:50 PM
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I wanted to tell you about the date that Ed and I had, on Saturday night. In the town where I work, they have a wonderful theatre where they put on shows that are based on Bible stories. These shows are wonderful... they are professionally acted and staged. They have amazing costumes, wonderful sets, and real animals!
We saw the story of Ruth, and it was so good. I cried at the end, when we were reminded that though Boaz was despised by some because he was the son of a prostitute, that prostitute was Rahab, who became part of the lineage of Jesus. And then they took the scarlet sash that Boaz wore, and it suddenly stretched out and covered a cross. The cross rose on the stage and the red sash began to flow out from the cross; symbolizing the precious Blood of Jesus.
After the show, we had planned to go to Red Lobster. But the lines were WAY too long, and Ed didn't want to wait. So we went to a Japanese place, where they cook the food on a hibachi; right in front of you. I have never been to a place like that before! It was so cool, but I didn't expect them to have flames shooting up from the grill; so close to our seats and I got a bit shaken up. But it was all part of the show, and the food was very good.
Ed and I are enjoying being alone, but I know we will enjoy it even more when we can be on the same schedule, next week. Work went well today, and I really feel like I am handling a full load of patients. I am looking forward to night shift!
God bless you all
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I will bless the Lord at all times; His praise shall continually be in my mouth! Psalm 34:1
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RE: Mrs Ed's blog - 8/11/2005 6:14:28 PM
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The week is going well. Today I woke up very tired, as I fell asleep on the couch last night and woke up stiff and sore. Today I also had to go and review CPR and then for the rest of the day I went to another unit of the hospital. The floor where I work is a rehab floor, and today I went to see the place where the patients go; right after they get out of the operating room after knee or hip surgery. It was a different focus, but it was important for me to see what happens to the patients before they get to my floor. I followed some of the nurses around, and I learned alot. But I will be glad to be back on my own floor tomorrow. It will be my last day, on day shift.
The Lord has blessed me by sending me a really wonderful girlfriend, who will work on night shift with me. She is a student nurse, and she is the one that I talked through the procedure last week. As we talked we discovered that we are both Christians, and from there we just kept getting instantly closer! I find myself looking forward to working with her! And I am SO grateful that the Lord blessed me with a female friend. It is something I had really hoped for.
This evening, Christina and I were supposed to go to the college pool and go swimming, but Ed found out that it is closed for cleaning/renovation until the end of the month. Today she went on a job interview. She would be the receptionist at a health club, and I hope she gets it. It sounds good for her!
Me, Christina, Becky, Ben and Joe are getting together on Saturday to go to a cultural festival in the town where I work. I have seen articles in the paper about this and it looks like fun! Can't wait!
God bless you all!
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I will bless the Lord at all times; His praise shall continually be in my mouth! Psalm 34:1
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RE: Mrs Ed's blog - 8/12/2005 7:44:42 PM
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I don't know why, but whenever I have to take a "tough love" stance with Christina, I get so upset. Tonight she asked me for money so she can visit two of her friends, who live in another part of Pennsylvania. Now, I think both of these friends are nice, and I don't mind her visiting them. But, with her being unemployed, and us so tight for money (largely in part because of scheduled and non-scheduled expenses for, her) I told her I cannot. I will give her credit: she HAS pursued jobs here. But, in the three weeks since she has been here, she went on only three interviews. She "Won't work at fast food, or retail," etc. And when she does go on an interview and the people don't call her, she just gives up.
I know it's not fair, but if I were in her position and wanted something more than what we are willing to provide (which right now is food, gas money for work only; tuition, and rent) I would work ANYWHERE. She could probably get a fast few jobs for a few weeks, and still look for a job which suits her better. But, because she prefers to be picky, she won't do that. So... I will not give her money for trips. I can't take a trip! I can't do very much toward paying our own bills.
So now she is not speaking to me (tonight) and says she will not go to the festival with us tomorrow. I won't let her spoil my fun (though to be honest, it already has; to some extent) I hate having tension between us, and it hurts me that she can't see the truth of this. I know she will, someday, but in the meantime I am praying that there can be peace between us.
By the way, I finished my day shift rotation today. I am looking forward to being on the same shift as Ed, though they tell me that there isn't that much activity, at night. I know the Lord sent me to night shift for a reason, so I will continue to seek His Will and ask Him to show me each night, what to do. In the meantime, I feel like I have a three-day weekend, as I don't have to go back to work til Monday at 11pm.
God bless you all!
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I will bless the Lord at all times; His praise shall continually be in my mouth! Psalm 34:1
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