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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/22/2008 6:03:21 PM
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Roberta_
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Yes, I'm thinking that it'll take a few meetings. This one was large, someone got offended that someone else claimed Christ to be their higher power and quoted Scripture and there was a lot of foul language.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/23/2008 1:20:00 AM
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That would have made me uncomfortable too. Do give it another try, or at least something similarly supportive that also will hold you accountable. Even if another try does mean a different time or place for your meeting.
And now that I'm finally calm (sort of), I have to have a bunch more neuro testing. Apparently, my last MRI showed some weirdness and some symptoms my GP had been ignoring or otherwise blowing off indicated stuff like neuropathy...so she wants to know what's causing all that. Bleh.
Plus it's come out that my BIL defrauded my Mom out of thousands of dollars and in the process lost the house she owned in No. Cal. (so it's really a lot more counting the value of the home)....and as if that's not enough, BIL wants Mom to continue paying him almost $2K/mo for the next two years to repair the damage that his losing HER house did to HIS credit (since how this all started was an agreement that he an my Sis would refinance the home on their credit - which was better - and then Mom would pay them and they'd pay the mortgage).
So have more than my share of anxiety right now. Bleh. Any way, all that to say all prayers for the above are deeply appreciated.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/23/2008 1:37:46 AM
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That would have made me uncomfortable too. Do give it another try, or at least something similarly supportive that also will hold you accountable. Even if another try does mean a different time or place for your meeting.
And now that I'm finally calm (sort of), I have to have a bunch more neuro testing. Apparently, my last MRI showed some weirdness and some symptoms my GP had been ignoring or otherwise blowing off indicated stuff like neuropathy...so she wants to know what's causing all that. Bleh.
Plus it's come out that my BIL defrauded my Mom out of thousands of dollars and in the process lost the house she owned in No. Cal. (so it's really a lot more counting the value of the home)....and as if that's not enough, BIL wants Mom to continue paying him almost $2K/mo for the next two years to repair the damage that his losing HER house did to HIS credit (since how this all started was an agreement that he an my Sis would refinance the home on their credit - which was better - and then Mom would pay them and they'd pay the mortgage).
So have more than my share of anxiety right now. Bleh. Any way, all that to say all prayers for the above are deeply appreciated.
That sounds something like the reverse of what happened to my former SIL.
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Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/23/2008 2:32:07 AM
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I was supposed to go to my Celebrate Recovery meeting tonight. I drove all the way there. I was feeling panicky, but I didn't have any of my meds (because I'm supposed to be going off of them) with me.
Tonight's session was "Your Emotional Cup."
The focus questions were:
1- What form your childhood/past continues to fill your emotional cup and what are your symptoms?
2- What fill your emotional cup today, are the symptoms any different?
In the choices of "flight or fight" I choose flight. I just got up and walked out. If it's a situation where I can leave (grocery store, party, etc) then I normally do leave for at least a few minutes anyway. If it's a situation where I can't leave, I try to figure out how to fight it. I didn't even try. I just got up and left. I'm very disappointed in myself for doing that.
When I last saw my therapist, we talked about some things that I have never talked to anyone about. I was able to keep them out of my mind for a long time. I would go months and years without thinking about them. I realize that I was only about six years old when these things happened, but I've always felt ashamed of them. I walked out of her office- in other words, I chose flight there too. Due to illness, it's been over three weeks since I've seen her. Monday will make four weeks. I was supposed to call her this week to reschedule, but I didn't. Not pleased with myself for that either.
I have promised myself that I will call her tomorrow morning though.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/26/2008 12:55:49 AM
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Panic can get the best of me to, and once it does so once it can be quite the battle to get it back under control. How are you doing now?
I've *got* to get out of the apartment Tuesday and get to *at least* the SSA (and ideally the courthouse too). DH was served with papers from the SSA, seems he STILL hasn't returned the requested reports and has been summoned for an in person appointment - and if he doesn't show or at least contact them then they'll stop paying benefits to him which leaves ME without any income. Some how, that just doesn't seem right, but all things government considered, I figure that's about how it'd work...
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/26/2008 11:30:29 AM
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Panic can get the best of me to, and once it does so once it can be quite the battle to get it back under control. How are you doing now?
I'm doing ok. The combo of panic and allergies hasn't exactly done wonders for me. However, yesterday I went to a church that I haven't been to in about six months. I was by myself and they invited me to stick around for the luncheon afterwards. Normally with something like that I find an excuse to leave or I sit by myself. I accepted the invitation and then asked a group of women if I could sit with them. They were very nice and I wound up chatting with two of them for a couple of hours. One of them was the pastor's wife and the other is a lady that I couldn't figure out where I knew her from. She had the same feeling about me and as we chatted we realized that she was a customer at the UPS store where I used to work.
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I've *got* to get out of the apartment Tuesday and get to *at least* the SSA (and ideally the courthouse too). DH was served with papers from the SSA, seems he STILL hasn't returned the requested reports and has been summoned for an in person appointment - and if he doesn't show or at least contact them then they'll stop paying benefits to him which leaves ME without any income. Some how, that just doesn't seem right, but all things government considered, I figure that's about how it'd work...
I'm still in prayer about your situation.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/26/2008 12:47:07 PM
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Sounds like a nice day yesterday. You mentioned allergies with your panic. Could any allergy meds be playing a role? I've even had trouble with non-drowsy but supposedly not activating stuff like claritin. Might be something to look into.
Thanks for the prayers. Will keep you posted as I can.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/26/2008 2:18:39 PM
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Yes, I have only one OTC allergy/cold med that I can take. I can't even take the generic for it. This one does still play a role in the panic attacks, but not as major.
And it was a very nice day yesterday. It was wonderful to chat with Christian women IRL about everyday things.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/26/2008 2:24:18 PM
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In the choices of "flight or fight" I choose flight. I just got up and walked out. If it's a situation where I can leave (grocery store, party, etc) then I normally do leave for at least a few minutes anyway. If it's a situation where I can't leave, I try to figure out how to fight it. I didn't even try. I just got up and left. I'm very disappointed in myself for doing that.
When I last saw my therapist, we talked about some things that I have never talked to anyone about. I was able to keep them out of my mind for a long time. I would go months and years without thinking about them. I realize that I was only about six years old when these things happened, but I've always felt ashamed of them. I walked out of her office- in other words, I chose flight there too. Due to illness, it's been over three weeks since I've seen her. Monday will make four weeks. I was supposed to call her this week to reschedule, but I didn't. Not pleased with myself for that either.
hi Roberta,
I just wondered why you were disappointed in/not pleased with yourself over those things.
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I have promised myself that I will call her tomorrow morning though.
I also wondered if you did indeed call her.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/26/2008 2:30:13 PM
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In the choices of "flight or fight" I choose flight. I just got up and walked out. If it's a situation where I can leave (grocery store, party, etc) then I normally do leave for at least a few minutes anyway. If it's a situation where I can't leave, I try to figure out how to fight it. I didn't even try. I just got up and left. I'm very disappointed in myself for doing that.
When I last saw my therapist, we talked about some things that I have never talked to anyone about. I was able to keep them out of my mind for a long time. I would go months and years without thinking about them. I realize that I was only about six years old when these things happened, but I've always felt ashamed of them. I walked out of her office- in other words, I chose flight there too. Due to illness, it's been over three weeks since I've seen her. Monday will make four weeks. I was supposed to call her this week to reschedule, but I didn't. Not pleased with myself for that either.
hi Roberta,
I just wondered why you were disappointed in/not pleased with yourself over those things.
Because I gave into the panic attack instead of fighting it out.
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I have promised myself that I will call her tomorrow morning though.
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I also wondered if you did indeed call her.
Yes, I did call her office. She is still out on medical leave. I know that she was having abdominal pain when I last saw her, so I'm wondering if she didn't have some type of surgery or something like that. They didn't know how long she'd be out and suggested that I call back this week.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/26/2008 6:14:50 PM
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manda59
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Because I gave into the panic attack instead of fighting it out.
It's good that you wanted to face it, and, because you have that wish to, I am sure one day you will.
These things take time, and it's important that you are patient with yourself.
When you have a panic attack, what actually happens? (sorry if you've put this before and I've missed it) I'd be interested to know what physical things happen to you and also what thoughts run through your head.
A panic attack is a defence mechanism, as I am sure you know. What, in this particular instance, was the goal of your panic attack, ie from what do you feel it was trying to defend/protect you?
Well done for calling your counsellor! Sorry she wasn't there, but you did well to go through with the call.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/26/2008 7:42:35 PM
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When you have a panic attack, what actually happens? (sorry if you've put this before and I've missed it) I'd be interested to know what physical things happen to you and also what thoughts run through your head.
Usually racing thoughts, racing heartbeat, diffuculty breathing, can't stay still and the overwhelming feeling that if I don't get out of the situation ASAP then something really tragic is going to happen.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/26/2008 7:51:45 PM
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If it's ok to ask, what kind of racing thoughts? And what "tragic" thing do you think might have happened in this particular instance? (ie what's the worst thing you think could have happened?)
(btw I've had panic attacks myself before, so I can relate; I just know they are often different for everyone)
< Message edited by manda59 -- 5/26/2008 7:59:04 PM >
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/26/2008 8:00:56 PM
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manda- I sent you a pm, but it's very short and to the point because I have company. Sorry if it appears to be rude.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/26/2008 8:03:25 PM
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It didn't, it was fine! (wow, you are so hard on yourself!)
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/26/2008 9:22:07 PM
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It didn't, it was fine! (wow, you are so hard on yourself!)
I always have been. For years I considered it "disciplining" myself. I'm much better than I used to be, but I still have a long way to go.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/30/2008 3:51:34 AM
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Does anone know if beta blockers could have adverse effects like cause anxiety or a mild depression? 2 weeks ago I had my dosage doubled. It sure is helping my blood pressure but I am also noticing that sometimes I get into thought patters that blow daily problems and life in general way out of proportion. This is also the third night I have woke up from night mares. I cannot figure out what is going on.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/30/2008 4:47:45 AM
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You need to go back and see your doctor about this. Either they are affecting you or something else is. Your doctor will be able to advise you what you should do to help you.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/30/2008 12:00:30 PM
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Agapetos is right, your doctor would be the person to ask that question. Especially since if it is the med, they'd know what to do about it.
I hope all are ok. Me? My PTSD is driving me batty and I know it's because of what's going on at home.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 5/31/2008 10:14:35 AM
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Does anone know if beta blockers could have adverse effects like cause anxiety or a mild depression? 2 weeks ago I had my dosage doubled. It sure is helping my blood pressure but I am also noticing that sometimes I get into thought patters that blow daily problems and life in general way out of proportion. This is also the third night I have woke up from night mares. I cannot figure out what is going on.
I would check with your dr.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 6/2/2008 12:11:40 AM
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One of the side-effects from one of the meds I was on is hair-loss.
I normally have thicker-than-average hair. I didn't realize how much I had lost until I started paying attention to how many times I was wrapping the pony-tail holder around. Since it's starting to thicken back up, I decided to get it cut. Sis cut it for me today. I told her to cut off at least 4" and that I didn't care if she cut off more. She cut it to my shoulders. She took off just over 7"! I love it! I feel like a new woman!!
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 6/2/2008 1:02:45 AM
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Glad to hear the new cut worked out for you. :) Isn't it amazing what a haircut can do for (or to) self-confidence or to pick you up? Same for color if you do that. Which reminds me, I bought a box of color months ago, suppose I should use it sometime. It's not doing much to cover my stripe of gray sitting on the shelf.
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 6/2/2008 10:41:10 AM
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I bought a box of color months ago, suppose I should use it sometime. It's not doing much to cover my stripe of gray sitting on the shelf. ROFL! I was thinking the exact same thing yesterday!
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RE: Mental Health Encouragement. - 6/2/2008 6:18:46 PM
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I bought a box of color months ago, suppose I should use it sometime. It's not doing much to cover my stripe of gray sitting on the shelf. ROFL! I was thinking the exact same thing yesterday!
I thought about coloring. I've bought a box a few times. I think about doing it and then change my mind because I'm not much for doing the upkeep. I haven't colored since going on meds about 4-5 years ago so I also worry that the color may not turn out right.
I shouldve saved some of my hair from yesterday so I could do a strand test without actually having to cut more of my hair.
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